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Why Having a Positive Mental Attitude is Important

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with a wrong mental attitude” – Thomas Jefferson.

Attitude is everything. At the heart and core of personal development is mental attitude. Success or failure is largely determined by one’s reaction to their environment. The ability to react is a result of your mentality.

How you react to adversity; your ability to grow and learn and your ability to overcome challenges are all factors that are largely influenced by your mental attitude.

What determines your success or failure is your attitude towards life. If you have a positive mental attitude you are more likely to succeed. That is why it is very important to keep a positive mental attitude.

For this reason, you will agree that one of the most important personal assets to continuously make improvements on, is your mental attitude. If you want to achieve more, you must ensure that you work on improving your mental attitude.

It is the gateway to life’s opportunities. How you react to different situations will determine what course of action you will take.

You may not realise it but, sometimes opportunities come and they pass you by, simply because of your negative way of thinking.

The most successful people are those that have a positive mentality even when they are faced with adversity. I know that sometimes it is very difficult to stay positive, but if you want to succeed you need to have an attitude of positive mentality.

They say “the only disability in life is a bad mental attitude.” We all have weaknesses. I always say that we are all challenged in one way or the other. But, the only disability is having a bad mentality.

I have seen people who are physically challenged, yet are successful in life. A good example is one of my favourite preachers Nick Vujicic.

This is a man who is physically challenged yet with great charisma and a positive mental attitude towards life. I find his teachings amazing.

The reality of life is that we are solely responsible for forming our own attitudes. God has given us the authority and willpower to be in charge and be responsible for our own characters.

It Has an Effect on Your Life

Your attitude is usually formed over a period of time due to your life’s experiences. However, your reaction and actions towards any given situation are but your choice.

You have the power and will to choose how you are going to react to any given situation. Only you are in charge of the willpower to choose.

Your reaction towards life also has a bearing on both your long and short-term achievements. The negative reactions will usually delay your success rate and increase your failure rate.

What you want in life is to increase your chances of success, which can only be done with a positive attitude.

The more positive your attitude is the more increased your chances of success is.

As I have said before that life is enjoyed when you triumph. Winning can be addictive just as losing can be demoralising.

It’s like in sport, the more you win, the more motivated you are and the more invincible you feel. However, the opposite is true, the more you lose the more demoralised you feel and the more likely you are to lose again.

Am sure it takes more energy and a great attitude to reverse a losing streak in any situation.

The effects of having a positive way of thinking on your life is the ultimate feeling you should be aiming for. You have better self-esteem and your confidence is enhanced.

Confidence naturally reduces your stress levels and you develop a feel-good factor about yourself, that leads to more happiness. After all, the ultimate goal in life is to live a happy and healthy life.

It Can Help Boost Your Self-Esteem

As mentioned before having a positive mental attitude has many benefits among them is the improvement and boosting of your self-esteem.

The quality of your life and the way you feel about yourself are all linked to your mental attitude.

The more positive your mental attitude is, the better the quality of your life.

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.” – Brian Tracy.

If you think positively, you will feel happier. If you are negative, you’ll feel pretty dull. Boost your self-esteem by looking at yourself in a positive light and picking out the things you like about yourself. Also, turn any negative features or characteristics into positives.

People will always have an opinion about you, it’s important not to let what others think, bother you, and to really try not to worry yourself about what they think at all.

I have a personal rule, of not paying so much attention to things that I have no control over. One of which is that you will never have control over what people think or say about you. Make it a policy that they do not affect your happiness.

Always remember that every action you take has consequences and it is basically a reflection of your inner being. Like I said before you have the willpower to make better choices.

As mentioned above attitudes are formed through experience. They are learnable. This means that both positive and negative mental attitudes have been learned over time. Just like anything else that can be learned they can also be unlearned.

According to a Stanford Research Institute study, the path to success is comprised of 88% attitude and only 12% education. This does not negate the importance of education but goes to show how vital a positive mental attitude is to success.

Self-esteem can only be boosted by unlearning the negative way of thinking and replacing it with a positive one.

It Can Improve Your Motivation

You are motivated when you are sure of yourself. Motivation is a product of having a positive outlook. Motivation is key to achieving your personal development and self-improvement.

When you are of good cheer, nothing can stand in your way. Yes, you will stumble but will turn adversity to your advantage. A person of good cheer will surely succeed in life because they will be razor-focused on achieving their goals.

“When you change the way you look at things; the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer.

Conclusion

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” – Brian Tracy.

Having a positive mental attitude is what you should be working towards achieving.

August 3, 2026
Having a Transformed, Positive Mind is Powerful

Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. We speak what is in us. Your speech is directly linked with what is harboured in your mind.

Life demands that we grow physically, spiritually, and mentally. Although these processes of transitioning from childhood to adulthood seem to come naturally, we have a huge responsibility and duty to ensure that the transition is smooth.

Not only to see it happen but to ensure that it is done right. Even as small children we were responsible for ensuring that the food prepared for us was eaten. Our parents or guardians were only responsible for the provision.

Just as the body needs nourishment to stay in good physical condition, the mind and the spirit which are mostly neglected also need to be looked after very well.

Everything that we do starts with the mind. I cannot think of anything that the body does that is not controlled by the brain which houses our mind. If you want success you need to have a success mind. You need to change the way you think.

Watch your thoughts they become your actions, watch your actions they become your character that defines you. In every situation or circumstance, the state of your mind largely determines the way you navigate through life.

Stop doubting your ability to think big. You have more than enough capacity to achieve anything that you set your mind on. If you can think it then you can be it. If you have a negative state of mind you need to change your thinking habits.

If it means changing the people you hang around with, do it. You are currently in your stagnant life mainly because you have not allowed your mind to provide solutions for you. You have created a box that you cannot think beyond its edges.

Feed Your Mind the Right Stuff

What are you reading? What are you watching? If you are not reading you are starving the growth of your mind. The Bible says “be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Transformation of the mind is key to both your survival and your personal development and self-improvement.

Your outward life is a reflection of the world within. You may wonder why your life is stagnant. Take a look at your predominant thoughts and bang! you have your answer. If you spend most of your time complaining you are most likely a complainant.

Life gives you back what you give it. If you give it lemons, you get lemons out of it. You cannot expect to harvest apples from a mango tree, nor can you expect to harvest mangoes from an avocado tree.

If you want apples, plant an apple tree, take care of it diligently and in due course you will harvest apples. If you want to achieve success change your thinking habits and have a success mind. Be successful in your mind and work towards achieving it.

One of the ways I use to help stay positive is by reading motivational books and the Bible on a daily basis. Every day I spend at least one and a half hours reading. I have a deliberate target of reading at least two books in a month.

I listen to podcasts, CDs and watch motivational videos. With the advent of the internet, there are lots of free sources for material, YouTube is one of them. I have also greatly reduced my TV time. Yes, I do find time to relax with my family but I spend most of my free time reading.

The change has been immense. My thinking has greatly improved and is more positive than before. I am not saying I do not have negative thoughts, I do have them from time to time but I have also learned how to handle them.

I do not allow them to take over my predominant thoughts. Getting rid of them quickly, once they surface is one of the techniques I use. I have also learned to be more focused and have become more productive with my work.

Get Your Hands Dirty

Don’t just end at changing your thinking habits. To achieve anything you need to put in the time, you need to fold your sleeves and get your hands dirty. You need to work.

Thinking without taking action will not put food on your table. Remember you have bills to settle and they are paid from your earnings and these come from your work.

Get to work even when your plan is not as clear as you want it to be. It will become more clearer as you navigate through it. The most important thing is to just get started.

When I was setting out to start this blog I had no concrete idea of the direction it would take. To be honest, even up to now I cannot exactly say what direction it will take. The only direction I pray and hope it will continue taking is the provision of free personal development and self-improvement materials.

I keep getting more ideas on how to make improvements to the site and currently, I have been thinking of publishing an eBook. I know this is going to be hard work. I know for sure that hard work is not a guarantee to success, but it surely is the only chance I have.

I believe that human beings were created to work. If you are not working, you are more likely living a life you do not enjoy. Work is also good for the health of your body. Working also makes you feel relevant in life as you are contributing to the growth of the world.

The Bible says “a good man shall leave an inheritance for his children’s children.” Yes, it is your responsibility to ensure that your children and your grandchildren have a heads start in life.

You may say I never had a good start, well the fact that you are here, reading this article, means that you are privileged enough to make sure that those coming after you have a heads start.

The Bible also says that “if a man will not work, he shall not eat.” A little sleep, a little slumber, and a little folding of the arms to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a robber. There is no substitute for getting your hands dirty, it has to be done.

Conclusion

If there is one thing you must possess it is having a clear thinking mental attitude. Having a changed and positive mind will surely give you a head start in all your endeavours. Your mind is the heart of your life, guard it against destructive vices. Do not neglect to nourish it well. Change your mind and change the narrative for your life.

August 2, 2026
The Power of Letting Go: Freedom Starts with Forgiveness

Human beings are social by nature. We depend on each other. Whether we want it or not. Whether by design or not. Whether we like it or not. We need each other.

We all depend on each other and even though sometimes if not most of the time we come into conflict with each other. We were meant to co-exist.

Though there can be a lot of friction when people clash, the most important thing and most important lesson to learn in life is having a spirit of forgiveness.

Harbouring bitterness is poisonous to yourself. When you hate you hurt and block yourself from God’s blessings. You shield yourself from his grace.

The question then is, why do you keep hating even when the person you hate has moved on and most of the time they don’t even know that you hate them?

You have no moral right to keep hate in your heart. It just burdens you. It hurts your feelings. It’s stressful for nothing.

Allow your heart to be free and experience true freedom. God created you to enjoy a peaceful life. You can never have peace when you are hurting inside.

Hate is bondage. Forgiveness is freedom from bondage. You will never be free if you have a heart of unforgiveness. You wiĺl never experience full happiness if your heart is burdened with hate.

The reality is that most of the time we keep hate for no real reason. Ask yourself why you hate someone and the reasons will be flimsy.

God Forgave Us

We have no reason to keep hurting in our hearts because God Almighty already forgave us at the cross. Every whip and tear he shed at the cross was for you and me.

So who are we to keep hating each other when the creator of heaven and earth, the one who knows us inside out, already forgave us? He bore our infirmities and by his stripes we were healed.

The Bible is always encouraging us to live in peace with one another. In fact it commands us to “love your neighbor as you love yourself.” Surely no one hates themselves. I have yet to come across a person who hates themselves.

When we live in peace we are able to progress as humanity and we can help make the world a better place.

The main source of conflicts today is people harboring hate against each other. People looking down upon each other thinking they are more superior than the other. People wanting to subdue each other.

We can reduce wars and conflicts by sitting down on a round table and asking each other for forgiveness. In other words, sitting down and having honest conversations with each other.

There is absolutely no need to fight both physically and mentally. Today, the world witnesses one of the bloodiest wars in the middle east in modern day history all for no real reason.

It All Starts With You

You have a huge part to play. The decisions you make today will definitely affect the outcome of so many things.

You may not realise it but what you do today has an effect on the general well being of the world. You may be a small entity but you are part of the larger world family.

If only you can do the right thing, you may just be one person but imagine if everyone of us did the right things. Just how much would the world benefit?

Change starts with one person and it moves to the next and the next before you know it, it is all trending and the world is being changed and transformed.

So don’t underestimate the power and the weight you carry. You are such an important component of the world at large.

Remember that a population is made up of individuals that have an independent mind. Collectively we form a united population.

It Frees You From Bondage

You experience freedom and unburden your heart when you practice forgiveness. We all want to be shown love when we make mistakes. Why? Because we are human.

It’s just human that we feel appreciated. Some need more love than others. It is our duty as human beings to forgive and show love to each other.

This way we create a fertile environment and open our hearts for God’s blessings. There is nothing so soothing and refreshing than knowing that you have been forgiven.

You cannot hope to succeed when you are carrying bitterness in your heart. Bitterness is poison.

This is most common especially among us who call ourselves Christians. We like to have double standards. On one hand we preach God’s word on the other hand we are not living what we preach.

Before you judge your friend, look at the life you are living. Give it a test by comparing it with the standard that has been set by the Christ you profess to follow.

Does it fall short or is it in conformity with his standards then you have the right to judge your friend. Am sure that if we all did this we would not be judging one another instead we would be asking each other for forgiveness.

To Err is Human

If you are a human being you will always make mistakes. There is no one on this earth who is perfect. We all make mistakes.

No one can claim to live a life that is without blemish. That is why we should all seek God’s help and guidance everyday.

Believe it or not you get through the day by God’s grace. Without which you cannot make it. Whether you are a believer or not, God is so merciful and gracious to all. He lets the sun shine on all his creations. He has given each and everyone of us an equal opportunity.

We have the opportunity to seek God’s guidance and forgiveness on a daily basis. He is not a God who forces things on his creation.

He has given us free will to choose but remember that the choices you make have a large bearing on the results you desire.

It is human to make mistakes. Don’t feel ashamed when you make mistakes, instead it is an opportunity to learn what not to do next time.

We would never have learned as much without making mistakes. It is part of the growth process.

It all Comes Down to You

You make the final call. The ball is in your court. What you decide today has an effect on your future.

The more good decisions you make the more influential you become and the more you impact the world in a positive way.

Your legacy will be determined by the way you live your life; it is what people see that attracts them to you. You cannot expect to leave a good legacy if you are not good yourself.

If they see negativity you will surely attract negative people around you. If you radiate positivity you will see positive people around you.

The choice is yours to make. You have the final say of what you want to be.

Conclusion

The ultimate goal in life is to experience freedom. This can be achieved when you learn how to forgive.

August 1, 2026
5 Reasons Why You Should Be Responsible For Your Life

Life is what you make of it. If you make it happy you will enjoy happiness. If you make it boring you will definitely be bored; make it positive and you will live a positive life. You take out of life what you give it, nothing less and nothing more.

In other words, you are responsible for your own life. You are responsible for creating the life that you want. You can chart the course of your life. No one has the right to prescribe what your life should be or look like, without your permission. This is your birth right and your responsibility.

Quit blaming people for what you do not have or have not achieved and start doing something about it. If you are miserable you are solely responsible for ensuring that you change it.

In the first place, you must realise that you are the one who got yourself where you are, based on the decisions and choices you have made.

This is what many people do not realise, that it is everyone’s responsibility to make decisions that will help chart their own lives.

Instead, they wait for someone to come and make decisions for them and they end up waiting for eternity or continue living a life that is controlled by other people.

Do you realise that every decision you make has an immediate or future influence on your life? Your life is made of the small decisions and choices you make every day.

That is why it is important to make the right decisions and choices that have a long lasting and positive influence on your life.

As human beings, we have a tendency of turning a blind eye to facing the reality of making those tough decisions and choices. Especially, if the decisions will lead to some temporary setbacks. This is a bad habit that must be broken.

If you do not make the decision to resolve certain problems, they have a way of showing up in the nearest future. It could just be the reason why certain things are going wrong in your life. Have the courage to make decisions and learn to live with the consequences.

Do not shy away from making those uncomfortable hard decisions that could make or break your life. Do not allow people to take away your responsibility for your own life.

Take Control of Your Destiny

The results of being responsible for your life are many. When you are in control of your life, you also control your destiny. You decide what is good for you and what is not good for you.

You decide what your life should look like, what direction it should take and what it should be. In other words, you are the captain of your life.

Sometimes things will not go accordingly, but you will be absolutely pleased that you are responsible for everything that happens to your life because you made the decisions and choices yourself. The other thing you will take away is that you will have no one, but you to blame.

Instead, you will find solutions to fix your current inadequacies and correct the situation. Equally, when you succeed you will take all the credit.

Well, you know how it feels to be credited with success. This is what makes life worth living for, the ability to make adjustments and decisions that help propel your life forward.

It doesn’t mean that things will be easy when you are in control, No. But it motivates you to do even more things that make you happy. You set your own goals and move at your own pace.

Experience Personal Freedom

Every good thing comes with a responsibility. Being responsible is a requisite for personal freedom. It’s an expression of personal freedom and signifies maturity. It is a good measure to use as a self-check to achieve personal development and self-improvement.

There was a time son was learning about his rights as a child at school. One day when he came back home from school he was very excited to tell me about his rights, I asked him to list them down one by one.

What I noticed is that he was not told by the teacher that to every right there is a responsibility. He was only told one side of the story.

I got his list and also wrote down the responsibilities that go with the rights he had listed down. It then dawned on him that to every right he has, there is also a requirement to take responsibility in order to enjoy them rightfully.

I think that is the way life should be. Personal freedom and responsibility go hand in hand. If you want to enjoy the freedom you must take responsibility for it.

We must ensure that we put in place things that will enhance our freedom without infringing on other people’s freedoms. We must learn to coexist as human beings.

Accountability

Accountability is “responsibility to someone or for some activity.” If you are married you are responsible and accountable to your spouse. Yes, it is your responsibility to be accountable. I know that most men do not want to be accountable to their wives. But it is our responsibility and duty to do that.

I believe that we are all accountable to one another not only to our spouses but to the community at large. How we live our lives is a reflection of how accountable we are.

How then, can you be accountable if you are not in charge of your own life? I am a Christian and believe that one day God will ask us to give an account for our lives.

Being accountable is being responsible. If you work for an Audit or Law firm you are taught to account for your time by way of filling in a timesheet on a regular basis.

You have to be in control of your time because every minute you spend on a file is charged to the client. This is just one way of asking you to be responsible with your time. You do not want to overcharge a client and you also want to give the best advice or service possible.

A Sense of Belonging

You feel a sense of appreciation when you are contributing to a just cause. You can only contribute more when you are in control of yourself. Those who are totally in charge of their lives contribute more positively to society than those who are not in control of themselves.

As you may well know, human beings are social by nature. Belonging is the feeling of security and support when there is a sense of acceptance, inclusion and identity for a member of a certain group. We all strive to be accepted socially because that is in our nature.

Creating genuine feelings of belonging is a critical factor in improving engagement and performance. You should not trade your acceptance to a group by giving up your responsibility for your life. You have the power and will to choose what type of relationships to belong to.

It Is Your Duty

Your life is your responsibility. It is your duty to look after it and do what you feel is right with it. At the end of the day, it is you who will be answerable for it to your creator. You will stand in the “dock” and be answerable for how you spent it. What you did with it.

Taking responsibility is acknowledging that you are taking control of your life, it is telling your friends and the world that you are in charge and not your spouse, father, mother, or anyone else.

It brings out the best in you. It is your duty and your birthright to be in charge of yourself.

Conclusion

One of the most important aspects of taking responsibility for your life is that you will live your life according to your will. No one will live it for you and everything you accomplish will be duly credited to you.

No one will take away the joy and the happiness you will experience. Make sure you are responsible for your life.

July 30, 2026
The 6 Success Attitudes to Develop In Life

Attitude towards life is the difference between success and failure. Those that are more successful are always optimistic and passionate, they exhibit positive characteristics.

They are happier and more enthusiastic about life. They carry an aroma of positivity and are always looking forward to the next challenge.

Whereas, those that are less successful are negative minded and are less enthusiastic about life. They are generally, less ambitious.

It is, therefore, a given that if you have to be successful you must develop a much more positive attitude towards life. You must always have the zeal for taking your life to another level.

You must never be “content” with what you have and where you are, you must always be on the lookout to maximise the available opportunities that will help improve your life.

What then do you need to drive your motivation? Well, for starters you need to replace the attitudes that are bringing you down with the following:-

Do the Best With Your Ability

We are all gifted differently and believe me you have more talent and ability than you think you have. They say the biggest obstacle to your success is yourself.

We limit ourselves by thinking in a box; by thinking that we do not have enough ability to succeed.

Winners on the other hand don’t go into games with a second-best or not good enough mentality.

They go into games with the sole purpose of winning. They have a champions mentality and attitude. They refuse to concede defeat.

Instead, they learn from their mistakes when confronted by failure. They take opportunities with both hands.

It is important that you do your very best with the opportunity that you have been given because your destiny is dependent on how well you handle your current opportunity.

The lessons learned now could come in very handy as you progress with your life. They may not seem to be as much for now, but they could be valuable in the near future.

Take Responsibility for Your Actions

Personal growth and self-improvement are about taking responsibility for your actions, not only the good ones but also the not so good ones. The ones you would want to hide from people.

You cannot grow when you do not take responsibility because success comes with responsibility. If you do not want to be responsible you have no business seeking success.

Because the more successful you are, the more responsibility you take. Accepting responsibility is an attitude that should be developed.

Most of the time people do not want to take responsibility for their actions. They are always looking for someone to blame when things have gone wrong or are going the other way.

They only want to take responsibility when things are good or are going the right way.

Unfortunately, life demands that we take responsibility for every action that we make and face the consequences of those actions.

The attitude of taking responsibility is a sign of maturity and takes your leadership skills to another level.

Taking responsibility makes you accountable. When you are accountable you are conscious of what you do. You take actions that will not negatively affect your life.

Have Faith in Your Abilities

If only you can believe in your abilities the sky is not the limit. If you want to achieve even more with your life, develop the attitude of believing in your abilities.

Trust what you can be and what you can do. The more you trust in your abilities the more likely you are to improve on them.

The more likely you are to take in more complex and demanding tasks that are even more beneficial to your success.

Having faith in your ability is the first step to almost guaranteeing your success. The measure of faith you have in your abilities will drive you to keep moving forward.

Because of your faith, you will treat failure as a temporary setback. You will rise up even higher when you fall and nothing will stand in your way.

Be Prepared for Victory

When you are working on something, be sure that you are expecting to win. We fail to handle victory because we are not prepared for it.

Most of the time we are not even expecting to be victorious. Successful people are always prepared for what’s coming and they know that victory is coming.

How prepared are you to face victory? What will you do when you succeed? Bear in mind that victory does not just come it is earned.

You don’t just wake up and BOOM you are victorious, no, you work hard for it and most of the times victory does not just come at the first attempt.

It takes a lot of patience, persistence and smart hard work to achieve good things. Look, if it was easy to be successful we would all have been successful, each one of us.

Your desire should be to win and you should develop a winning mentality and a never give up attitude.

Don’t Doubt Yourself

Doubt is a negative emotion or feeling. When you doubt you attract negativity.

To achieve positive results you need an attitude of self-belief. Self-belief is what fuels your motivation to do even more.

You should believe in yourself for everything that you are doing and intend to do.

Doubtful thoughts must not be allowed to dominate or cloud your mind. Stay focused and concentrate on the task at hand.

To eliminate doubt in your life try this principle “if you think you can do it, just do it.” The more you do, the more confidence you develop.

What you want in life is to be confident with yourself. To be confident that you are doing the right thing and are on the right path to success.

Challenge Yourself to Do More

Success is measured by the many challenges one has overcome. The more challenges you overcome the more successful you are.

Life is generally full of challenges. We are constantly navigating through challenges every day. But if you want to achieve more with your life you need to challenge yourself to do more than the average person.

You are only as successful as your previous challenge nothing more and nothing less. Every new day comes with it many different challenges and the onus is on you to overcome them.

Your responsibility as a human being is to have an attitude of doing more with your life. Look, if you can move from point A to point B then you can move to point C and point D.

If you stop at point B you will never see and experience point C and beyond. There is more to experience out there. When you keep pushing yourself, you will definitely achieve more with your life.

When you move from one point to another, you have the chance and are privileged to experience the goodness of that place for as long as you possibly can.

The biggest difference between the less successful people and the more successful ones is that the latter have developed an attitude to keep challenging themselves to do more.

Conclusion

In everything that you do, the attitude, you exhibit will always be a driving factor in determining how far you will go in achieving your intended life’s purpose.

You must, therefore, endeavour to develop a positive attitude for your life. Until next time develop the attitude of a champion.

July 28, 2026
4 Things You Need to Become Self-Reliant

Nature dictates that we move from point “A” to point “B” and from point “B” to point “C” and so on and so forth. However, movement does not entail success nor does it imply growth.

Even if we do not make a deliberate decision to move we will move anyway because that’s the nature of life.

If you do not make a deliberate decision to grow, that movement will likely not be the ideal one. It will usually amount to flowing with the wind. Most likely you would be in the wrong direction until you get a hold of yourself.

If you want positive change and improvement you need to make deliberate decisions and take action. You need to be in control of your movements. Don’t just flow with life. Direct the steps of your life.

It is your responsibility to make sure that you move in the direction you want. No one owes you anything and you do not owe anyone anything.

Remember that God gave you a responsibility to look after your life. From the time you are born, you are created to be a self-reliant being. Even as a small child, you are generally responsible for your well-being.

Even though we are dependant on one another we still live as independent souls and are solely responsible for ourselves. The sooner you realise that you are in charge of the growth process for your life the better.

Assume Responsibility

Responsibility is what makes the difference in life. It is what defines growth. People who are responsible for themselves experience more happiness and experience more, enjoy life in general as compared to those who are less responsible.

We are all created to be responsible for looking after this world and together we will be answerable for what we did or did not do. Even in the early days, Adam was commanded to have dominion over all living creatures. Remember this is a command and there was no choice.

It, therefore, follows and it is a given, that we must be responsible for our actions. For how can you have dominion without responsibility? Having dominion comes with responsibility.

Assuming responsibility is the beginning of Self-Improvement and Personal Development. If you are serious about personal development and growth, you need to grow your responsibility traits.

You need to step up and be the responsible person you ought to be. Yes, I know that sometimes it may be difficult. But that’s what life is all about. If it was easy everyone would have achieved greater success and life would be boring.

What makes life worth living is the fact that we keep challenging ourselves to reach greater heights. It’s the fact that we are never satisfied with our current achievements.

Some of these if not most of life’s challenges require us to have an even greater sense of responsibility. Therefore, if you shy away from taking responsibilities you may just be hindering your growth as a person.

Be Informed

We live in the information age. You need to be up to date with what you want to achieve. Be it general information or information that will directly have a bearing on your expected outcome.

Create reliable sources of information that you can tap into to feed your needs as and when the need arises.

Without being properly informed you are most likely going to perform below par and this may affect your results. However, with the correct information at your disposal you will make better-informed decisions that will go a long way to enhance productivity and there on it will show in the results.

Becoming self-reliant requires that you make use of the information in your hands. Do not just gather information for the sake of it. Gather the right information and make use of it.

Learn how to manipulate the data to your advantage, by this I mean in the right way that does not injure others.

There are many sources of information out there the biggest one is social media via the internet. The internet is a hive of activities and so caution must be made on the authenticity of your sources.

If you have to stay informed you must also learn to spend a considerable amount of your time reading and learning. I believe that success consists of more learning and practising what you have learned.

There is no use gathering information that you do not intend to put to good use. Most of the information out there may not be of use to your plans, so be careful with what you are looking for.

Know Where You Are Going

For, how can you be self-reliant without having to know what you want to achieve? Everyone in life has a purpose and it is your duty to find out exactly what you want to achieve with your life. The unfortunate thing and the reality is, that many of us do know our God-given purpose.

The need to know where you are going in life cannot be overemphasised. Formulate an action plan that you intend to follow through and keep working on it every day.

Keep reminding yourself of what you want to achieve in life, frequently. This will help keep you motivated and make sure that you are doing the things that will help advance you towards your goal.

The people you meet along the way are there to play a role in your life. However, not everyone is useful all the time. Some people you meet for a certain period and never see again.

In life, you need to identify the people that add value to your goals. So whilst you have them around utilise them and get as much as possible from them.

Some people will not add value to your life but instead will draw you backwards. Learn to create the right relationships that will last for a long time. Relationships that are of mutual benefit to both.

Make Your Own Decisions

You are not self-reliant if you cannot make your own decisions. Have you noticed that you are most happy with the good results that come out of the decisions that you make on your own than those made on your behalf?

There’s just something that makes you glow when you look back and say wow so all this is because of the decisions and actions I took.

When a decision is made by someone else on your behalf it takes away that pride feeling and believe me, all the credit goes to the one who made the decision and not you.

Decision-making enhances your level of responsibility. Which is a critical part if you want to be self-reliant.

Conclusion

Becoming self-reliant is what you should aim for, in your life. In as much as we live in an interdependent world self-reliance is also an important part of personal development and self-growth.

July 27, 2026
3 Things to Always be Grateful for Every Day

Life offers us many things that we take for granted. From childhood to adulthood we are privileged to enjoy so many good things.

Yes, sometimes it is tough to realise that we are blessed until we lose the blessing. When we are blessed with something we become blind and complacent. Over time we tend to forget to take good care of the blessing.

In my life, I have learned to appreciate the little things that seem not to matter to many people. It is the small things that make up the big things.

If you ignore the small little things, your life will be a mess. It may seem as if there is nothing to live for and yet we all have so much to give and so much to live for.

Do not be discouraged if you are in a moment where you feel isolated or abandoned. Believe me, there are more people in a much worse situation than what you are experiencing.

It is just a matter of time before you turn the corner and things start moving in the direction you want them to.

But life as it is, should not be left on autopilot. It takes effort and determination to make the changes that will help enhance your life.

As you make the change and start to pursue your dreams learn to never take the following 3 things for granted.

The Gift of Life

If you are breathing you must thank God that you still have the gift of life. You have every reason be to grateful because you still have a chance to give it a go.

Sometimes we take life for granted. Just because you woke up this morning does not necessarily mean you will see the end of the day. This life you are enjoying can easily be taken away within a matter of minutes.

Every day that you are alive is a miracle and this is more reason why you should always be grateful for the gift of life.

You may not be in a good position as you would want to be, but the fact that you are still alive gives you an equal chance at having another go at doing the right things.

If you give up now you may never know what you will have achieved had you tried much harder and worked your course.

You see God is very fair, he has given us all the gift of life and we all have access to the same resources. Our localities may be different but we all have access to the same resources.

We may experience different challenges but the resources remain accessible to all who are willing to go the extra mile.

As long as you are still breathing, your job is to ensure that you make good use of your life. Because at some stage you will have to account for what you did with it.

If there is any gift that needs to be cherished above all, it is the fact that you have a life. Last time I check all human beings are only credited with one life on this earth.

Therefore, be more grateful for it, because how you look after your life today will largely determine how well your future will be.

People who are grateful do not misuse their lives. They always try as much as they can to look after themselves well if not better their lives.

The Gift of Good Health

You have heard it said that your health is your wealth. Just like any other asset your health is an asset. Perhaps your greatest asset. Good health is to be cherished and utilised properly.

Do not take your health for granted. It is what will make or break you. You are most productive when you are in good health.

If you are of a sound mind and good physical well being thank God for it. Believe me, it is not easy to do things when your body is not in good health.

Life is much easier to live when you are in good health both physically and mentally. Make sure you do your very best to prolong the enjoyment of good health.

If you are experiencing bad health do everything humanly possible to help restore your health. Human beings were meant to enjoy good health.

Remember the key is that you still have the breath of life. Not until God says so you still have a chance to pursue your dreams. It may seem impossible in your eyes, but nothing is impossible with God by your side.

Those of us enjoying good health must not despise or indeed celebrate that our friends are not enjoying good health. Instead, we must lend a helping hand to them.

You never know what the future holds. However, when you offer help, do not expect anything in return, just do it out of goodwill. Do it out of love for other human beings.

The Gift of Family/Relationships

Family or should I say relationships are an essential aspect of life. From the time we are born to the time we die, we need people around us. I believe that every one of us has some kind of relationship be it family or friends.

We all have those people we refer to as family even if they are not our biological or blood relations. That is what humanity is all about. We are a social species.

We thrive when we are connected to strong relationship bonds; When we have a strong support system. A support system that looks after our best interest at heart.

But many of us take these relationships for granted. We do not appreciate them whilst they last. We only realise how important they are when they are no more.

Just because you are the one in the front of success does not mean you made it alone. There are a whole lot of people behind you that are ensuring that you succeed; that are looking after your back.

You may not be conscious of them but they are there playing a silent part. Some may not even be playing a seemingly significant part but they contribute to your overall success story.

That is why in this life you must never look down upon anyone but appreciate what they do for you, it may seem small but it adds up to something.

Likewise, you are also playing a part in someone’s life. You may not know it but there is someone out there who looks up to you. That is why it is always important to do the right thing all the time.

These relationships that we have must never be taken for granted. We must try by all means to show gratitude whenever possible. Because once they are gone they can never be replaced.

Conclusion

There are many things to be grateful for in this life. If you think you have nothing to be grateful for try listing them down. You will be amazed at how long the list will be.

I just picked 3 that I thought we normally take for granted. You can add to the list and be thankful even for the little things that you experience and always show some love to someone.

July 26, 2026
Don’t Give Up on Yourself, You Have a Second Chance

Every day you wake up you are presented with a chance to impress. Not only yourself or your peers but the world at large.

God always gives us a second chance to redeem ourselves. He knows that we are not perfect and that we are far from being perfect.

He is such a merciful and wonderful God that he always gives us a second chance at life. That is why we should never give up when we are faced with temporary setbacks.

No matter what you have done or have not done in life, just know that there is always a second chance at life.

No one should deceive you that you can never get up and make it. Life has given us all an equal opportunity to succeed. Yes, some may seem like they are ahead.

But, no they are not, your time is coming if you can work it out, you will achieve your goals. They say that being ahead does not mean you will arrive first.

You are not in competition with anyone. You are here to live your own life. You are not responsible for someone else’s life but yours alone.

At the end of the day, you will be accountable for what you have done or have not done with your life. Not for anyone else but yours alone.

Get Up and Get Going

We all fall down at one point or another and that’s what life is, the only thing you can do when you fall is to get up and get going again.

When you are faced with adversity don’t be discouraged. When things are not going your way don’t give up. When you try and it seems there is no way, just keep pushing. Sometimes life gives you the unexpected.

Those who succeed are those who never give up. Those who achieve more are those who overcome adversities. Those who live to tell the greatest stories are those who have been bruised and have overcome many adversities.

Remember that, it is impossible to move forward if you do not get up after you fall. Do not remain down, get up quickly and figure out what went wrong and resolve how to correct your current pitfalls.

Learn from your failures and always make sure that, you avoid the same mistakes. Failure teaches us the things that we should not do. That is why I always say don’t be afraid to fail. It is part of the growth process.

If you are in a devious situation and you think that it’s the end of the world, you are mistaken there are many people out there in even more precarious situations than you are faced with.

Maybe you don’t know that there is always someone in a much worse condition than you, you should know that today.

Look at what you want to achieve. There is more that lies ahead of you than what you have accomplished so far. There is still more that needs to be done.

Look, God is not done with you, for as long as you have the breadth of life. He still has use for your life. So, get up and go and fulfil your God-given dreams.

You Could Be the Solution

The world is in need of people who come to offer solutions to the many challenges being faced. You could just be the answer to someone’s problems.

Always be ready to take advantage of what’s coming ahead no matter how little. Be prepared when the chance comes through. You do not want to be a statistic but counted among the people who contributed the most.

Sometimes, we get discouraged or think that we can only contribute small things. But do you realise that it is the small contributions that make the big ones?

Every effort you put into doing something does not go unnoticed. It may not mean as much for now but the more effort you make the closer you move to achieve your success.

Your small contributions done regularly will result in big contributions. Don’t shy away and think that your contributions are not needed or do not count. Every small contribution when added up amounts to something significant.

Small as they may seem they could just be the final bits to achieve success or help out someone. Remember that a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. So take that step and begin the journey.

Every step you take or make moves you closer to your target. Yes, sometimes you may deviate but ultimately with persistence and hard work you will achieve your goals.

If you do not take action, nothing will change and nothing will be accomplished or achieved.

You cannot just sit back and hope that things will work themselves out. You need to work them out yourself. Play your part and leave what you cannot do to God Almighty.

Have Faith in Yourself

Faith is what keeps us going. Faith is the evidence of things to come. Without faith there is very little we can accomplish.

You cannot achieve much if you don’t have faith in yourself. You cannot claim to have faith in God whom you have not seen and you have no faith in yourself, whom you see and feel every day.

Create an atmosphere of having faith in your abilities even when the task at hand seems impossible. Remember the bible says “I can do all things possible through Christ who gives me strength.”

Have Faith that God will give you the strength to achieve your goals. But don’t just end at having faith. Back up your faith with your works.

You can have as much faith as you want but without works, it amounts to nothing. The Bible says “faith without works is nothing.”

The more faith you have, the more you will overcome what comes ahead of you. The more involved you are the more opportunities are created and presented to you.

Action creates opportunities. So the more action the more opportunities the less action the fewer the opportunities.

Develop an attitude of having faith in yourself and that the sky’s not the limit. If you believe you can do it, just go ahead and do it.

Conclusion

Life is dynamic and demands that we keep pressing to achieve our goals. Nothing comes on a silver platter. We work for our own breakthroughs and miracles by doing what is right. If you do not act, nothing will happen, life will pass you by.

July 21, 2026
The Six Qualities of Self-Development

“The highest reward for a person’s toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.” ~ John Ruskin.

We all have it in ourselves to develop to our fullest potential, whether in a relationship; work; family; sport; whatever.

Each and every one of us is engineered to develop and reach our utmost potential. But then why is it that most of the people remain without even reaching half of their potential?

To achieve your goal requires a mix of qualities, mindset, and behaviours; remember that all “growth is from within.”

Here are my six most important qualities. Please take note that the qualities listed here are not in any particular order.

Ability – Align with Your Purpose

My first quality is ability. In life, you will have a tough time achieving your full potential if you try to do something you are not gifted for.

If you set out to achieve your personal intended life’s purpose ensure that you are doing the right things with the right abilities.

Thankfully, our almighty God the creator gave us all the right abilities to prosper and succeed in achieving our goals.

It is, therefore, important that you know what your life’s purpose is. For example, you cannot succeed at being a sportsman when God engineered you to be a musician.

The level of success you will attain in being a sportsman will be far less than the level you would have achieved had you been on the right path.

You will spend more energy trying to succeed at being a sportsman than being a musician. Know your life’s purpose.

Attitude – The Catalyst for Success

The second quality and I guess my favourite is attitude. I say attitude is the mother of all success.

Attitude is the beginning and endpoint of all self-development work. Without the right mental attitude of positive self-belief, you will not achieve anything of significant importance in life. With the right mental attitude everything is possible.

“I can do all things possible in Christ Jesus who strengthens me”~ the Bible.

I personally regard attitude as key to personal development and success.

You may have all the necessary tools and equipment laid before you (which are actually endowed in you), but with a wrong attitude, you will not succeed.

With the right and positive attitude, the sky is the limit. Many of us have a wrong attitude towards life especially when we are faced with challenges.

Instead of seeing opportunities presented in the challenge we focus on the problem. Those who succeed see opportunities in the challenges they face. Stop crying over spilled milk and rise above the challenge.

You cannot change the situation but at least you can control how the situation affects you. Charles Swindoll says “I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.”

Faith – The Strength of Inner Belief

What is faith? “It is the demonstration of hope for things not yet seen.”“Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking while it is still dark”~ Scandinavian Proverb.

I will give an example of Christianity. We believe that there is God even though we have never seen him. The bible encourages us to have faith. I believe that faith distinguishes those who realise their full potential from those that don’t.

In fact, the strength of your self-belief is the one thing that determines if you can move mountains or foothills. But having self-belief or faith is not an easy task.

One of the best ways to help improve your faith is to talk positively to yourself during a task. Even when the going gets tough tell yourself “I can do all things possible through Christ Jesus, who strengthens me” these are magic words.

Believe me, you will not know what strength you can derive just by saying the above words. It has worked wonders for me and so it will work for you.

The subject of faith is a very broad one and I would encourage you to read the bible frequently to help you get inspired and increase your faith.

Courage – Stepping into the Unknown

“…..be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” ~ the Bible.

This was actually a command God was giving to Joshua. It is easy to start the process of self-development, but much harder to keep it going especially when things are not going our way.

When the odds are against you that is when you need to summon your courage to see you through. The journey to success is a personal one and so is the courage and will to succeed.

The difference between highly successful individuals is measured by how much courage they have to undertake certain risks.

Most people fail before they even start, especially in business because they have no courage to rise up when the tide rises higher than anticipated.

When you fail at the first attempt relax and evaluate your failure and try again until you have it right. Do not settle for failure.

“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves” ~ Sir Edmund Hilary.

Chance – Creating Your Own Luck

The combination of qualities of personal development such as ability, self-belief, and awareness are the factors that produce what I call “luck.”

Scientists believe that there are no random accidents. Everything that happens to us is a result of our mental self-belief and our physical actions.

We as human beings all have more or less the same chances. The difference is how we see and utilise those chances when they come around.

In a football team where competition for numbers is high, the players will work hard during training to impress the manager so as to be named in the starting line-up.

When this opportunity comes it is up to the player to embrace it with both hands and prove to his manager that he is worth being in the team. This is also true with life.

If you prepare yourself opportunities will always come forth. It is entirely upto you to make good of them.

Perseverance – Embracing the Lifelong Journey

There are no shortcuts or hacks to self-development that I know of. I challenge anyone to help me find one.

The only route I know to self-development is a combination of the above qualities mentioned coupled with perseverance and personal experience.

All personal growth follows a similar route which has its own momentum and takes its own time.

There is no success without perseverance. With persistence and perseverance comes the breakthrough to reaching our intended life’s purpose.

Remember that success is not a destination but a lifelong journey.

Conclusion

I hope and trust that you have learned something from the above article. Self-development is not a race neither is it a competition.

You are what you think. Having a positive mind is one sure way to achieving self-development.

The above qualities are only a guide and they are the ones that I use. There are many other qualities that you can learn and improve yourself.

July 20, 2026
The Confidence to Perform Comes from Within
Confidence is “The state of mind characterized by one’s reliance on himself or his circumstances; a feeling of self-sufficiency; such assurance as leads to a feeling of security; self-reliance;” – Webster’s Revised Unabridged Dictionary.

Confidence is a powerful catalyst for self-improvement and personal development. It fuels your journey, empowering you to take bold steps toward your goals. Embrace it fully, and watch how it transforms challenges into opportunities for growth.

Without confidence, one cannot be expected to achieve much or overcome the impossible. The people who go on to be successful are those who exude confidence in their lives.

It is what fuels us to go out and do more even when the odds are against us; When the chips are down.

When you are full of confidence you are fired up and charged for success. You have in you the unwavering belief that what you are doing will succeed.

The amount of confidence you have will surely determine how far you will go with a task. This will also have an effect on how far you are willing to go in your life.

If you are lacking in confidence you will definitely give up the first time you hit a huddle. You will have many excuses just to find a way of not continuing.

Where Does Self-assurance Come From?

You may be wondering and asking, how and where do people get the confidence they exude?

Well, in as much as external stimuli has an influence on us, the final decision comes from inside. It is what you build inside that overflows outside.

Everything you exhibit on the outside is a reflection of who you really are inside. If you are negative that’s just what you are, so be careful of what your mind feeds on.

You cannot give what you do not have. Your character and behaviour are a direct reflection of who you are. Look, you cannot be peaceful if you do not have peace in your heart.

Everything you are comes from the inside. Your confidence comes from the inside. It is what you have inside of you that will reflect on the outside.

Take a seed, for example, as small as it is, it grows into a big tree utilising resources from within.

Of course, it is influenced by the conditions outside but all the growth comes from within itself. The growth does not come from outside. You can imagine the energy needed for it to shoot through the soil.

Exactly the same with you and me. We are influenced by the conditions we face every day. But these do not have a final say on the outcome of our lives. We decide what course our lives will take by the choices and decisions we make.

We make the final decisions and choices despite what we are confronted with. These decisions come from within. In other words, they are personal decisions. They are of your own volition.

I always say you have a choice no matter what you are faced with. I do not believe in the saying that I had no choice, there is always one.

How to Create and Maintain Confidence

To move forward in life there is need to create and maintain a strong sense of self-belief. This is what will make and keep you pushing forward. Without it, you do not expect to achieve much with your life.

But just how easy is it to generate and keep self-belief in the midst of life’s challenges?

Well, it’s not easy for me. There are times when I feel like giving up. Sometimes It seems like I’m just shooting in the air.

Here are a few things I do to help keep my confidence as high as possible:-
- Set small achievable goals – this helps to keep me motivated when the targets are achieved. For some reason it makes me look forward to the next challenge. The smaller the target the easier it is to achieve. It is the small things that make the bigger ones when added up.
- Look at the bigger picture – what do you want to achieve with your life? A reminder of what you want for your life should be big enough to generate enough motivation and confidence to help push you forward. If you want to achieve more you have no choice but to keep your confidence high.
- Appreciate your small achievements – appreciating what you have conquered just gives you that feeling of being a superman. It just gives you the adrenaline to take on the next challenge. That is why I find it better to break down my goals into smaller tasks that are realistic and can easily be achievable.
- Be optimistic and expectant – being optimistic and expectant usually produces positive results. When you are expectant you attract positive vibes.
Maintain a Healthy Mind

A healthy mind is key to success. Whatever you do in life starts in the mind.

All your dreams and plans are birthed in the mind. There is nothing that is man-made that was not conceived in the mind.

Your mental health plays a key role in your daily life. It is what makes or breaks you. You are what you think about most of the time.

Your life is a reflection of the mental state of your mind. A Positive and successful life reflects a healthy and positive mind.

It is, therefore, important that you keep a healthy mindset. Just like physical health, mental health is equally important actually very important.

I have noticed that mental health is an area that is mostly neglected by many people. They concentrate on physical health a lot and neglect their mental health.

A balanced and healthy mindset is the greatest asset you can ever have. The energy and willpower it generates are immeasurable.

To keep a healthy mind ensure that you feed your mind the right stuff. Your mind is the get way to your success.

Maintain Healthy Relationships

Good healthy relationships are key to maintaining and improving your self-confidence your self-growth.

When you have supportive relationships your confidence is high and you concentrate on achieving your goals. Remember what you want for your life is to achieve as many goals as you possibly can.

Life is such that we are all dependent on one another. No one can survive alone. You like it or not, your survival is linked to someone else’s.

Do not allow yourself to be in toxic relationships; they can be detrimental and sometimes fatal. If you in one find a way to sort it out.

Make it a point that you take an audit of your current relationships, pay attention to those that add more value to your life.

If need be, cut off those that are pulling you down. Those that are toxic and just drain you.

Surround yourself more with people who have positive energy it rubs off. Soon you will be more positive as well.

They say birds of the same feather flock together. The company you keep represents who you are.

Conclusion

To be confident is to show character that you are sure of what you want and are doing.

It is to have a conviction that what you’re focused on is going to come to fruition. That nothing will stop you from achieving your goals.

Above all confidence is a key ingredient to achieving your success. It is the source of the fuel that propels you to move forward.
July 19, 2026