“I am the captain of my soul. I am the master of my fate” – William Henley. If you didn’t know, now you know that you are solely responsible for your life. The choices and decisions you make are your responsibility.
Stop blaming other people for your under achievements and take responsibility to correct them. Humans have a tendency of playing the blame game. We want to have an excuse for our failures and inadequacies.
Most of the times we want to find someone or something to blame when things are not going right.
But do you realise that most of the time, if not all time we are responsible for the out come of our decisions?
If you make poor or bad choices do you expect to have better results? Why then do you want to blame other people for your choices?
This lack of being in control of our lives has costed many of us opportunities for growth.
Look if I have been in total control of my life from a young age I know for sure that I could have achieved many things. Am pretty sure you can relate to this as well.
However, the fact that I have not progressed as desired does not preclude me from being accountable for my life. It is my responsibility to ensure that I achieve and attain my God given destiny.
I know for sure that we all want to live a good life atleast I do. But, every good thing comes with a price.
For you to live a good life you must first take responsibility and be prepared to pay the price and usually it is a very high one.
Sometimes the small things that we do may seem to be insignificant. Well you are wrong, success is doing the small things that need to be done and when added up they become significant.
Being responsible makes you feel at peace with yourself. I know that as human beings we do not like being associated with negative results. But remember that it is the movement from negative to positive that determines the level of your success.
Personal development and self-improvement starts from being responsible for your life. When you are in control of your life it is much easier to chart the course of your life.
Yes, things will not always go accordingly, but you will learn to handle disappointments more maturely and improve on your weaknesses.
The Need to Be Accountable
“Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to; all they need is one reason why they can” – Willis Whitney.
“A desire to be in charge of our own lives, and a need for control is born in each of us. It is essential to our mental health, and our success, that we take control” – Robert F. Bennett.
When I was growing up I had no sense of accountability. For me life was just about enjoying myself and nothing else. But slowly as I approached my teens and advanced in my education things started to change.
The demand from my Dad to perform better and keep up with school work, made me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life. At least then, it was out of fear of being reprimanded by my Dad.
I thank God and give a lot of credit to my late Dad for the role he played in making me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life not only to my self but to him as well. This was a game changer for my life.
Being able to be accountable made me realise that I also needed to be in charge of my life. Because you will not be able to give a positive account if you do not know what you are doing. I think being accountable makes you responsible.
Fast forward, am no longer accountable to my Dad but I have a wife and children that look up to me. Apart from God and society at large these are the people that am directly accountable to.
You see because I now have my own family and they depend on me, I have learned that my life is not just about me. It is also about them. I need to strike a balance between my needs and also meet there needs.
So far they have been very supportive of my work and I really thank them. But I do not take it for granted.
Being accountable to someone makes you grow as an individual. It also helps you measure the level of your growth. If you do not have someone you are answerable to, it takes a lot of discipline to stay focused.
I would encourage you to find someone you can be answerable to. I know that the temptation especially for us men to wanting freedom is greater, but if you want to have better control of your life you need to have someone who can help you be in check.
One Day You Will Be Answerable
“Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God” – Leo Buscaglia.
I believe in God and the resurrection and that we were all created by him. I also believe that there is a heaven and hell somewhere.
The one who gives us life on a daily basis will one day demand an explanation of how we lived our lives on earth.
We will be answerable to him, that is why we must try as much as possible to live according to his word.
I have developed a never give up mentality, because for everyday that I wake up, I believe that God still has use for me.
Oh yes, I know that some things have eluded me, but I also believe that there are much better opportunities to come for me.
Always look to the brighter side of life. Stop complaining about going through the darkest side of life. If not you, then who?
Get on and do the right thing bearing in mind that one day you will be answerable to your creator.
Life is too short. Focus from this day forward on making a difference. It is your responsibility to ensure that to attain your God given destiny.
With each choice you make, you create your life. Choose wisely and above all be responsible for your life.