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  • Don’t Give Up on Yourself, You Have a Second Chance

    Every day you wake up you are presented with a chance to impress. Not only yourself or your peers but the world at large.

    God always gives us a second chance to redeem ourselves. He knows that we are not perfect and that we are far from being perfect.

    He is such a merciful and wonderful God that he always gives us a second chance at life. That is why we should never give up when we are faced with temporary setbacks. 

    No matter what you have done or have not done in life, just know that there is always a second chance at life. 

    No one should deceive you that you can never get up and make it. Life has given us all an equal opportunity to succeed. Yes, some may seem like they are ahead. 

    But, no they are not, your time is coming if you can work it out, you will achieve your goals. They say that being ahead does not mean you will arrive first.

    You are not in competition with anyone. You are here to live your own life. You are not responsible for someone else’s life but yours alone.

    At the end of the day, you will be accountable for what you have done or have not done with your life. Not for anyone else but yours alone.

    Get Up and Get Going

    We all fall down at one point or another and that’s what life is, the only thing you can do when you fall is to get up and get going again. 

    When you are faced with adversity don’t be discouraged. When things are not going your way don’t give up. When you try and it seems there is no way, just keep pushing. Sometimes life gives you the unexpected.

    Those who succeed are those who never give up. Those who achieve more are those who overcome adversities. Those who live to tell the greatest stories are those who have been bruised and have overcome many adversities. 

    Remember that, it is impossible to move forward if you do not get up after you fall. Do not remain down, get up quickly and figure out what went wrong and resolve how to correct your current pitfalls.

    Learn from your failures and always make sure that, you avoid the same mistakes. Failure teaches us the things that we should not do. That is why I always say don’t be afraid to fail. It is part of the growth process.  

    If you are in a devious situation and you think that it’s the end of the world, you are mistaken there are many people out there in even more precarious situations than you are faced with.

    Maybe you don’t know that there is always someone in a much worse condition than you, you should know that today.

    Look at what you want to achieve. There is more that lies ahead of you than what you have accomplished so far. There is still more that needs to be done. 

    Look, God is not done with you, for as long as you have the breadth of life. He still has use for your life. So, get up and go and fulfil your God-given dreams.

    You Could Be the Solution

    The world is in need of people who come to offer solutions to the many challenges being faced. You could just be the answer to someone’s problems. 

    Always be ready to take advantage of what’s coming ahead no matter how little. Be prepared when the chance comes through. You do not want to be a statistic but counted among the people who contributed the most.

    Sometimes, we get discouraged or think that we can only contribute small things. But do you realise that it is the small contributions that make the big ones?

    Every effort you put into doing something does not go unnoticed. It may not mean as much for now but the more effort you make the closer you move to achieve your success.

    Your small contributions done regularly will result in big contributions. Don’t shy away and think that your contributions are not needed or do not count. Every small contribution when added up amounts to something significant.

    Small as they may seem they could just be the final bits to achieve success or help out someone. Remember that a journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. So take that step and begin the journey.

    Every step you take or make moves you closer to your target. Yes, sometimes you may deviate but ultimately with persistence and hard work you will achieve your goals.

    If you do not take action, nothing will change and nothing will be accomplished or achieved.

    You cannot just sit back and hope that things will work themselves out. You need to work them out yourself. Play your part and leave what you cannot do to God Almighty.

    Have Faith in Yourself

    Faith is what keeps us going. Faith is the evidence of things to come. Without faith there is very little we can accomplish. 

    You cannot achieve much if you don’t have faith in yourself. You cannot claim to have faith in God whom you have not seen and you have no faith in yourself, whom you see and feel every day.

    Create an atmosphere of having faith in your abilities even when the task at hand seems impossible. Remember the bible says “I can do all things possible through Christ who gives me strength.” 

    Have Faith that God will give you the strength to achieve your goals. But don’t just end at having faith. Back up your faith with your works.

    You can have as much faith as you want but without works, it amounts to nothing. The Bible says “faith without works is nothing.”

    The more faith you have, the more you will overcome what comes ahead of you. The more involved you are the more opportunities are created and presented to you. 

    Action creates opportunities. So the more action the more opportunities the less action the fewer the opportunities. 

    Develop an attitude of having faith in yourself and that the sky’s not the limit. If you believe you can do it, just go ahead and do it.

    Conclusion

    Life is dynamic and demands that we keep pressing to achieve our goals. Nothing comes on a silver platter. We work for our own breakthroughs and miracles by doing what is right. If you do not act, nothing will happen, life will pass you by.

  • The Six Qualities of Self-Development

    “The highest reward for a person’s toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.” ~ John Ruskin.

    We all have it in ourselves to develop to our fullest potential, whether in a relationship; work; family; sport; whatever.

    Each and every one of us is engineered to develop and reach our utmost potential. But then why is it that most of the people remain without even reaching half of their potential?

    To achieve your goal requires a mix of qualities, mindset, and behaviours; remember that all “growth is from within.”

    Here are my six most important qualities. Please take note that the qualities listed here are not in any particular order.

    Ability – Align with Your Purpose

    My first quality is ability. In life, you will have a tough time achieving your full potential if you try to do something you are not gifted for.

    If you set out to achieve your personal intended life’s purpose ensure that you are doing the right things with the right abilities.

    Thankfully, our almighty God the creator gave us all the right abilities to prosper and succeed in achieving our goals.

    It is, therefore, important that you know what your life’s purpose is. For example, you cannot succeed at being a sportsman when God engineered you to be a musician.

    The level of success you will attain in being a sportsman will be far less than the level you would have achieved had you been on the right path.

    You will spend more energy trying to succeed at being a sportsman than being a musician. Know your life’s purpose.

    Attitude – The Catalyst for Success

    The second quality and I guess my favourite is attitude. I say attitude is the mother of all success.

    Attitude is the beginning and endpoint of all self-development work. Without the right mental attitude of positive self-belief, you will not achieve anything of significant importance in life. With the right mental attitude everything is possible.

    “I can do all things possible in Christ Jesus who strengthens me”~ the Bible.

    I personally regard attitude as key to personal development and success.

    You may have all the necessary tools and equipment laid before you (which are actually endowed in you), but with a wrong attitude, you will not succeed.

    With the right and positive attitude, the sky is the limit. Many of us have a wrong attitude towards life especially when we are faced with challenges.

    Instead of seeing opportunities presented in the challenge we focus on the problem. Those who succeed see opportunities in the challenges they face. Stop crying over spilled milk and rise above the challenge.

    You cannot change the situation but at least you can control how the situation affects you. Charles Swindoll says “I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.”

    Faith – The Strength of Inner Belief

    What is faith? “It is the demonstration of hope for things not yet seen.”“Faith is like a bird that feels dawn breaking while it is still dark”~ Scandinavian Proverb.

    I will give an example of Christianity. We believe that there is God even though we have never seen him. The bible encourages us to have faith. I believe that faith distinguishes those who realise their full potential from those that don’t.

    In fact, the strength of your self-belief is the one thing that determines if you can move mountains or foothills. But having self-belief or faith is not an easy task.

    One of the best ways to help improve your faith is to talk positively to yourself during a task. Even when the going gets tough tell yourself “I can do all things possible through  Christ Jesus, who strengthens me” these are magic words.

    Believe me, you will not know what strength you can derive just by saying the above words. It has worked wonders for me and so it will work for you.

    The subject of faith is a very broad one and I would encourage you to read the bible frequently to help you get inspired and increase your faith.

    Courage – Stepping into the Unknown

    “…..be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” ~ the Bible.

    This was actually a command God was giving to Joshua. It is easy to start the process of self-development, but much harder to keep it going especially when things are not going our way.

    When the odds are against you that is when you need to summon your courage to see you through. The journey to success is a personal one and so is the courage and will to succeed.

    The difference between highly successful individuals is measured by how much courage they have to undertake certain risks.

    Most people fail before they even start, especially in business because they have no courage to rise up when the tide rises higher than anticipated.

    When you fail at the first attempt relax and evaluate your failure and try again until you have it right. Do not settle for failure.

    “It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves” ~ Sir Edmund Hilary.

    Chance – Creating Your Own Luck

    The combination of qualities of personal development such as ability, self-belief, and awareness are the factors that produce what I call “luck.”

    Scientists believe that there are no random accidents. Everything that happens to us is a result of our mental self-belief and our physical actions.

    We as human beings all have more or less the same chances. The difference is how we see and utilise those chances when they come around.

    In a football team where competition for numbers is high, the players will work hard during training to impress the manager so as to be named in the starting line-up.

    When this opportunity comes it is up to the player to embrace it with both hands and prove to his manager that he is worth being in the team. This is also true with life.

    If you prepare yourself opportunities will always come forth. It is entirely upto you to make good of them.

    Perseverance – Embracing the Lifelong Journey

    There are no shortcuts or hacks to self-development that I know of. I challenge anyone to help me find one.

    The only route I know to self-development is a combination of the above qualities mentioned coupled with perseverance and personal experience.

    All personal growth follows a similar route which has its own momentum and takes its own time.

    There is no success without perseverance. With persistence and perseverance comes the breakthrough to reaching our intended life’s purpose.

    Remember that success is not a destination but a lifelong journey.

    Conclusion

    I hope and trust that you have learned something from the above article. Self-development is not a race neither is it a competition.

    You are what you think. Having a positive mind is one sure way to achieving self-development.

    The above qualities are only a guide and they are the ones that I use. There are many other qualities that you can learn and improve yourself.

  • The Confidence to Perform Comes from Within

    Confidence is “The state of mind characterized by one’s reliance on himself or his circumstances; a feeling of self-sufficiency; such assurance as leads to a feeling of security; self-reliance;” – Webster’s Revised Unabridged Dictionary.

    Confidence is a powerful catalyst for self-improvement and personal development. It fuels your journey, empowering you to take bold steps toward your goals. Embrace it fully, and watch how it transforms challenges into opportunities for growth.

    Without confidence, one cannot be expected to achieve much or overcome the impossible. The people who go on to be successful are those who exude confidence in their lives.

    It is what fuels us to go out and do more even when the odds are against us; When the chips are down.

    When you are full of confidence you are fired up and charged for success. You have in you the unwavering belief that what you are doing will succeed.

    The amount of confidence you have will surely determine how far you will go with a task. This will also have an effect on how far you are willing to go in your life.

    If you are lacking in confidence you will definitely give up the first time you hit a huddle. You will have many excuses just to find a way of not continuing.

    Where Does Self-assurance Come From?

    You may be wondering and asking, how and where do people get the confidence they exude?

    Well, in as much as external stimuli has an influence on us, the final decision comes from inside. It is what you build inside that overflows outside.

    Everything you exhibit on the outside is a reflection of who you really are inside. If you are negative that’s just what you are, so be careful of what your mind feeds on.

    You cannot give what you do not have. Your character and behaviour are a direct reflection of who you are. Look, you cannot be peaceful if you do not have peace in your heart.

    Everything you are comes from the inside. Your confidence comes from the inside. It is what you have inside of you that will reflect on the outside.

    Take a seed, for example,  as small as it is, it grows into a big tree utilising resources from within.

    Of course, it is influenced by the conditions outside but all the growth comes from within itself. The growth does not come from outside. You can imagine the energy needed for it to shoot through the soil.

    Exactly the same with you and me. We are influenced by the conditions we face every day. But these do not have a final say on the outcome of our lives. We decide what course our lives will take by the choices and decisions we make.

    We make the final decisions and choices despite what we are confronted with. These decisions come from within. In other words, they are personal decisions. They are of your own volition.

    I always say you have a choice no matter what you are faced with. I do not believe in the saying that I had no choice, there is always one.

    How to Create and Maintain Confidence

    To move forward in life there is need to create and maintain a strong sense of self-belief. This is what will make and keep you pushing forward. Without it, you do not expect to achieve much with your life.

    But just how easy is it to generate and keep self-belief in the midst of life’s challenges?

    Well, it’s not easy for me. There are times when I feel like giving up. Sometimes It seems like I’m just shooting in the air.

    Here are a few things I do to help keep my confidence as high as possible:-

    • Set small achievable goals – this helps to keep me motivated when the targets are achieved. For some reason it makes me look forward to the next challenge. The smaller the target the easier it is to achieve. It is the small things that make the bigger ones when added up.
    • Look at the bigger picture – what do you want to achieve with your life? A reminder of what you want for your life should be big enough to generate enough motivation and confidence to help push you forward. If you want to achieve more you have no choice but to keep your confidence high.
    • Appreciate your small achievements – appreciating what you have conquered just gives you that feeling of being a superman. It just gives you the adrenaline to take on the next challenge. That is why I find it better to break down my goals into smaller tasks that are realistic and can easily be achievable.
    • Be optimistic and expectant – being optimistic and expectant usually produces positive results. When you are expectant you attract positive vibes.

    Maintain a Healthy Mind

    A healthy mind is key to success. Whatever you do in life starts in the mind.

    All your dreams and plans are birthed in the mind. There is nothing that is man-made that was not conceived in the mind.

    Your mental health plays a key role in your daily life. It is what makes or breaks you. You are what you think about most of the time.

    Your life is a reflection of the mental state of your mind. A Positive and successful life reflects a healthy and positive mind.

    It is, therefore, important that you keep a healthy mindset. Just like physical health, mental health is equally important actually very important.

    I have noticed that mental health is an area that is mostly neglected by many people. They concentrate on physical health a lot and neglect their mental health.

    A balanced and healthy mindset is the greatest asset you can ever have. The energy and willpower it generates are immeasurable.

    To keep a healthy mind ensure that you feed your mind the right stuff. Your mind is the get way to your success.

    Maintain Healthy Relationships

    Good healthy relationships are key to maintaining and improving your self-confidence your self-growth.

    When you have supportive relationships your confidence is high and you concentrate on achieving your goals. Remember what you want for your life is to achieve as many goals as you possibly can.

    Life is such that we are all dependent on one another. No one can survive alone. You like it or not, your survival is linked to someone else’s.

    Do not allow yourself to be in toxic relationships; they can be detrimental and sometimes fatal. If you in one find a way to sort it out.

    Make it a point that you take an audit of your current relationships, pay attention to those that add more value to your life.

    If need be, cut off those that are pulling you down. Those that are toxic and just drain you.

    Surround yourself more with people who have positive energy it rubs off. Soon you will be more positive as well.

    They say birds of the same feather flock together. The company you keep represents who you are.

    Conclusion

    To be confident is to show character that you are sure of what you want and are doing.

    It is to have a conviction that what you’re focused on is going to come to fruition. That nothing will stop you from achieving your goals.

    Above all confidence is a key ingredient to achieving your success. It is the source of the fuel that propels you to move forward.

  • Who Do You Think You Are?

    “You become what you think about most of the time” ~ Earl Nightingale. Do not be deceived I know that the title may sound a bit sarcastic, but maybe let me rephrase the question; what do you think you are?

    True to the question many of us do not even know what we think of ourselves. I asked many of my colleagues and friends the same question and the answers I was getting were shocking 90% of them have never even thought about it.

    This may be true for you. Bob Richards says “you are what you think you are, and I agree with him 100%. You see the world only sees and knows what you give them or rather allow them to see.

    Your perception of yourself may be different from what the outside world sees.

    What you think about yourself may very well be different from what I think about you most of the time. They say all growth is from within and what is seen from outside is the fruit of what is inside.

    It is therefore very important that you form a very positive identity and opinion about yourself and portray it to the world. I will give an example of a married couple.

    If you portray your spouse, as a bad person to your family that is what they will get. Simply because you “know” them better than your other members of the family and the opposite is true.

    What is Your Role?

    We all have roles to play in our lives and these, change as we go through them. Take your mind back as to when you were still a young person, what was your role then, in your family for example?

    What did your parents, your brothers, and sisters including your peers expect of you?

    We all start out our roles as sons or daughters, sisters or brothers then friends, pupils, employees, and the list goes on and on. Compare that to now.

    You could be married and have children surely your role has definitely changed. This simply shows you the pattern of physical growth and responsibility being taken on by you.

    I am sure just reading the list of roles above has conjured up some images in your mind of what each of those means to you.

    I know you have some kind of perception of each of them. Surely as you grow in your roles you will realise that these roles go with certain behaviours and expectations.

    The behaviour that you exhibit is what defines you. To some they come instinctively to others they have to be instilled and built upon.

    Whatever, the case they are built before they are shown to the world. The bible says “as a man speaks so is he in his heart.” Your reaction to the outside world is a result of what you harbour on the inside.

    What you harbour on the inside is as a result of what you constantly think about most of the time. Let me make things a bit clearer for you by defining what a role is. “This is what you are expected to do or your function.”

    The different roles that we take up during our daily lives help us to think reasonably of the part we play in society at large and what is expected of us.

    Remember that you are part of one big family and each member family member has distinct roles to play for the betterment of the entire family.

    Unfortunately, the larger family has broken down and it is up to you and me to be role models. You can only be a better role model if you change your thinking and put on your best behaviours.

    Your character is largely determined by what you think you are. In fact, they say your thoughts determine what you become. You may have noticed that your role keeps changing during the day.

    Some may wake up as a husband sleeping next to your wife, at that time your role is of a husband, next wake up the children, and you have a double role of both father and husband and as the day goes on your roles keep on changing and increasing.

    It is this change in roles that help us interact with society at large. We mold our children according to what they see us do and portray.

    Knowing Your Identity

    Sometimes, our roles ask us to show only certain sides of ourselves or even to act in ways that don’t feel true to who we are.

    The more we do things the more they become a habit and the more we think in the same way, the more these patterns of thought and behaviour become our identity.

    The roles we play in life give us strength and confidence. The sad part and truth is that most of us derive our identities from these roles.

    When you derive your identity from these external roles, your true identity gets forgotten and you believe the lie that you are your roles.

    Knowing your true identity is of paramount importance in achieving your personal development goals. Your true identity comes from deep within you.

    Your thoughts and your reaction towards the external world are a true reflection of your identity. Your identity can be seen in your daily roles.

    Practically speaking we have to play roles to operate effectively in society. It is a requirement that cannot be done away with. But these can dominate our sense of identity to the extent that we feel lost when all is said and done.

    The solution is to find a way of playing roles without them becoming your identity. Identity is from within. You need to find an internal source for your identity and not rely on the external one.

    That is why it is very important that you keep reminding yourselves of who you think you are.

    When we have found our internal source of identity we can then pick up our roles and play them with every confidence.

    Getting back in touch with who and what you really are, that is, finding yourself, opens up the possibility to play roles and move in and out of them with freedom when you like.

    Yourself Awareness

    Self-awareness is critical to personal development depending upon your definition. You cannot definitely know or start to think about who you are before being aware of yourself.

    The only way you can be aware of yourself is to take an observatory stance. A state of pure awareness enables you to step outside of yourself as it were and to take a look at yourself from a distance as an independent observe, much like a coach does in a coaching relationship.

    Being outside of yourself system gives you more objectivity to make a better judgment of your personality. This then gives you a better understanding of thinking about who you think you are.

    Personal awareness is gained by a shift in perspective of observing your thoughts, actions, and feelings; observing the world around you, the relationships and people, and giving yourself a break from yourself.

    Get feedback from these observations and write them down. The advantage of self-observation is that you are always with yourself and please, endeavour to form an honest opinion about your observations remove feelings and emotions.

    One of the best ways to observe yourself is when you are playing your daily roles. I have tended to believe that role-playing is for the gallery and does not allow us to be our actual selves.

    Self-awareness will greatly help you know exactly what you think you are.

    It may sound funny but many of us have no sense of self-awareness. We just go about doing business as “usual”. Personal success and development require that we change from our business as usual kind of a person. It requires being self-aware and more positive thinking.

    If you have a positive attitude towards life most likely you are also living consciously. If you are living consciously you will agree with me that, things do not just happen by chance or luck. You cause things to happen by your thoughts and actions.

    Understanding Your Self

    With increased self-awareness comes increased self-knowledge. I have never come across a successful person with very little or no knowledge about themselves.

    Personal development requires that you are in control of your being and to achieve this you need to understand yourself. How can you handle success if you do not have a clue about yourself?

    How can you even start to think about who you are before you even have an understanding of yourself? Self-knowledge leads to self-understanding and this gives us choice and freedom.

    It offers up the possibility to live spontaneously, in the moment, creatively applying your accumulated wisdom to the situation before you, free of internal conflicts and half measures.

    Self-understanding will, therefore, greatly help you in knowing who you think you are. Take a break and ask yourself how much you know and understand yourself.

    If you have no clue about knowing yourself, I suggest you become a student of yourself. Start by appreciating your various roles and have a sense of self-awareness.

    What you are merely doing is aiding your knowledge and thoughts on who you think you are? Personal success, therefore, requires that you have an understanding of yourself.

    Self-Acceptance

    Becoming aware of your own internal processes and in turn gaining knowledge and understanding, naturally leads one to self-acceptance.

    This is when you now know who you think you are. Accepting yourself leads to greater self-awareness as there is no need to hide parts of yourself. Acceptance is pretty much the opposite of being judgemental.

    We all have experienced some bad patch of some sort in our lives and some of them we would rather not talk about them. The amazing thing is that the route to personal change and development is not by rejecting, modifying, or suppressing them. But instead, it is in accepting them that we develop and move on.

    Self-acceptance is a key element in knowing who we think we are. The only way you can advance in personal development is by accepting whatever, happened to you in the past and learning from them and thereby, moving on.

    Well, I understand that some of us may have experienced life-threatening situations but it is more important to accept the reality and move on.

    It would be wrong to completely deny whatever, happened. But, to actually accept it; get professional counsel if necessary and move on.

    We hide in these unfortunate circumstances due to fear. In my life, I have come to realise that the number one enemy to success is fear. Get fear out of the way and you will have the courage to do.

    Self-acceptance can be actualised by knowing what you think you are. There is no success without knowing who you are and setting goals and writing down plans to actualise your thoughts.

    When self-acceptance is attained there is even more freedom and peace of mind.

    You see in life we as human beings accept people by our own standards instead of accepting them as they are. Most of the time people want to be associated with the affluent in society. Those that we know can give us favours.

    When you achieve self-acceptance you will accept people for what they are and not who they are.

    Conclusion

    We all perform roles in life, yet we are not our roles and if we identify too closely with them we may feel safe but only temporarily.

    The authentic self is the true self underneath all the conditioning that has been acquired through life’s experiences. You are what you are and that is ok.

    You are an original and there is only one you. Knowledge of ourselves is a prerequisite for real lasting change and for satisfied contentment with life.

    Ultimately being in touch with yourself means that; you will be aware of and be able to express your true feelings in an appropriate way as a responsible adult; you will have high levels of self-awareness and you will accept yourself for who you are.

    I hope and trust that this article has helped you in knowing who you really are and that you now can apply it accordingly.

    “Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never any higher than you think” ~ Benjamin Desraeli.

  • 5 Principles for Goal Setting

    “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals” ~ Henry Ford.

    As the year comes to an end and as you prepare for the coming New Year, I thought I could just remind you and probably give you a few tips on how to set out your future goals.

    Goal setting is one activity that distinguishes successful people from the average ones. It is hence important in life to set your own achievable targets that are measurable.

    However, before you set your goals, you need to have your life’s intended purpose written down. The goals you set are aimed at helping you achieve your intended life’s purpose.

    For more on goal setting please read this article Goal-Setting Tips.

    What Are Your Strengths?

    “Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender that is strength” ~ Mahatma Gandhi.

    It is very important to know what your strengths and weaknesses are as a human being. Before you step out to set your goals know what your strengths and weaknesses are.

    Know what flows from you naturally and what does not. I have noticed that the best goals are those set around our strengths.

    This makes life very easy and the journey to success enjoyable. You cannot set a goal as being a better mathematics teacher when your God-given call is being an athlete.

    You will surely fail terribly. This goes to parents who are in the bad habit of deciding their children’s careers. Just because you are the one paying school fees, does not give you the right to prescribe a career for your children.

    Or put straight, stop forcing them to become what you failed to be, or keeping the family tradition. I have two boys and all that I do is help them build on what they want to be.

    My first son tells me he wants to be a medical doctor because he feels pity when he sees sick people. He wants to help them get better.

    The only thing I do is to help him work hard and tell him that he needs to work extra hard in sciences, to be accepted in medical school. So far so good and I pray to God that he continues on this path.

    Write Down Your Goals

    There is power in writing down something. One sure way of reminding yourself about your goals is to put them in black and white.

    Please make sure that you are the one deciding your own goals and they are not borrowed. It is much better and easier to set your own targets than copying some else’s. Your life goals are based on the unique talents you have.

    The targets you set must be your own blueprint that can be adjusted as you go along.

    Writing also acts as a measure and monitor, as this helps you to review them from time and again. I find goal writing fun and interesting.

    A lot of things pop up that I could have easily forgotten about if I had not put them in writing. Your targets are your blueprint; the final product is your white print.

    All successful people have their life’s intended purposes written down and broken down into smaller manageable and achievable targets.

    Dream Big

    “If one advances confidently in the direction of their goals and endeavours to live the life that they have imagined, they will meet with success unexpected in un common hours” ~ Henry David Thoreau.

    Our lives are made of what we dream about. It all starts with your mind. If you dream, small you are more likely to achieve less in life.

    The bigger your dreams are the bigger your requirement for dedication and the bigger your expectations are. Zig Zigglar rightly says “if you can dream it, then you can achieve it.”

    Am sure that you have dreams of what you want to be. I believe that every one of us dreams of what we want to be. There is nothing wrong with dreaming big. You are only increasing your chances of success.

    Imagine Yourself Succeeding

    I would say dreaming and imagination go hand in hand. When you are dreaming you are visualising yourself living your dream. Your imagination is the preview of things to come. Only you can see them.

    Use your imagination to keep your dreams alive. If you want to achieve your goals you need to continue imagining yourself as a success.

    Such positive thoughts send out strong energies that attract complimentary thoughts from people that can help us achieve what we want.

    Constructive imagination means mental labour, by some considered to be the hardest kind of labour, but, if so, it yields the greatest returns, for all the great things in life have come to men and women who had the capacity to think, to imagine, and to make their dreams come true.

    “The cultivation of the imagination leads to the development of the ideal out of which your future will emerge” ~ The Master Key.

    Pursue Your Goals with Passion

    The driving force behind your goal achievement is your desire. You must develop a burning desire that transcends everything else to achieve your purpose.

    That is why I said in the first place that you set your goals based on your strengths. Whatever life’s purpose you have in life always make sure that you enjoy what you do. Life’s too short to be lived miserably.

    Inject some passion in the things that you do. If you are an artist’s draw like that is your last drawing.

    Imagine that you are going away and you want people to remember you for something, you will surely give them the very best of your being.

    If you are in the service industry being good and just smiling at your customers makes them want to come back frequently. Live life with passion.

    Conclusion

    I will end with one of my favourite quotes by Thomas Jefferson ~ “nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”

  • How to Create a Long-Lasting Positive Self-Image

    “Life isn’t about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself” ~ George Bernard Shaw.

    Before we start please get a piece of paper and write down the answer to the following questions. What do you think about yourself, what do you think your friends, colleagues and peers think about you?

    The answers of course will vary from individual to individual and will reflect what you think you radiate and transmit to your associates and peers.

    Galileo Galilei once said “you cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself.”

    What most of us do not know is that our positive spirit is the adventurer in us. It’s just a glimpse of what we are capable of doing. Yourself, image is the person you think you are. You are your own creation.

    When you carry a low self-image you attract into your life all the experiences and conditions that tell you how poor and pathetic you are.

    Conversely, when you are high in spirits you attract all the experiences telling you how great you are.

    When you have learned to form mental images of the conditions desired, it will be the easiest and quickest way to secure results; if not, results can be accomplished by argument, by the process of convincing yourself absolutely of the truth of your statement.

    Personal development and success have no room for a negative self-image. Which successful person have you ever seen carrying or putting on a low self-image?

    Have a Positive Mind

    “Whatever, the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve” ~ Napoleon Hill.

    Life requires us to put on a positive self-image. You see, everything begins with your mind. Have you ever noticed that when you have a positively inclined mind about something the results follow suit?

    If you have never observed this try to deliberately have a positive conscious mind about something good happening to you today.

    Believe me, just the thought will make you feel good and act positively.

    Imagine living in a society with positive-minded people. Individuals, who do not talk or act negatively towards each other, well it all starts with one person and that person is you.

    Creating a positive mind is one sure way of creating a positive self-image.

    With a positive self-image, even the people around you will be infected with it. This is the only disease you and I would be glad to spread.

    They will begin to treat you positively. Remember you attract what you think. The more ambitious and positive you think the more you attract those things that you will need to prosper.

    I agree that you may be distracted by temporal setbacks. But remember they are temporal and they offer us an opportunity to learn and grow from them.

    Imagine how boring life would be without challenges. Without having to sweat before sweet comes.

    Most of us especially the young generation, want to have sweet before we sweat. We want to cut corners and start enjoying good things where we did not sow, the end result is usually terrible.

    If God intended for us to enjoy everything at the same time he would have done that. But, then that’s not the case. That is why he gave us stages in life.

    First, you feed on your mother’s milk when you are a baby, before you graduate to feed on solids. You start small and as you learn to handle small things he increases your responsibilities.

    Some of us though, have remained and have not grown to handle larger responsibilities. This has mainly got to do with our mindset.

    Do you realise that we all have the same mind? It is the same mind that is in you and me. It is the same mind that has had great inventions.

    The difference between success and failure is how we have positioned our minds. What mental self-image do you carry in your mind?

    Having a positive mindset will definitely radiate a positive self-image.

    Act Positively

    They say actions speak louder than words. True to this is how you act in different situations.

    If you have to build a positive self-image then you have to act accordingly. Even when you have been challenged, be it physically or otherwise.

    A positive reaction attracts positive results. You cannot create a positive self-image just in your mind without reflecting on it.

    Your outward behaviour is a reflection or a mirror of your inner self. I always say that your outer reaction is an accumulation of your inner image.

    One always reveals themselves by how one reacts especially in challenging situations. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks,

    Self-image can only be reflected by your actions. Therefore, it is very important to act positively if you have to create a positive self-image.

    Without action, there is no reaction. Imagine if all the great inventors did not act on their thoughts, we would not have been privileged to be using computers today later on the internet.

    Action is the key to every outcome. There would be no outcome without some action. Personal development and self-improvement requires us to act on the knowledge we accumulate.

    I don’t know about you but the knowledge I acquire is for sharing with the people I come into contact with including you reading this article. It is no use accumulating knowledge and not acting on it.

    The difference between success and failure is the lack of action or acting on the wrong side of the coin. Positive action will surely enhance your self-image.

    There are many situations that will come your way in life and will require your action. In this instance, your actions will be a reflection of your self-image.

    This is when it matters most, what you feed your mind. If your mind is not well fed it will be revealed. The bible says “as a man thinketh so is he in his heart.” Our thoughts are predominantly what we see, hear and read.

    “Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits; they become your character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ~ Frank Outlaw.

    Renew Your Mind

    “You shall be transformed by the renewing of your mind” ~ the Bible.

    Nothing beats the renewing of your mind other than reading. It is by far the best way to renewing your mind. What you feed your mind is very important.

    From the time you are born to the time you grow up most of your character is a result of what has been fed to your mind.

    I will give an example if you grew up in a home where your parents fought every now and again you will most likely end up doing the same.

    It may not be your fault but your mind is conditioned that way. That is why it is important to feed your mind with the right stuff.

    If you are a parent PLEASE DO NOT DO ANYTHING, especially with your spouse that sends a wrong self-image in front of your children.

    Their minds are like cameras; they never forget easily. Remember that they learn from us. We, as parents, are responsible for nourishing their fragile minds.

    I have given myself a target of reading one personal development and self-growth book every month this is beside the bible of course.

    I know this is not much of a target but at least I feed my mind positively. Believe me, reading especially the bible, helps to build my mind which in turn helps develop my self-image.

    I have always emphasised in my previous articles the importance of reading. If there is anything that you will not leave anyone with on this earth when you die, it is knowledge.

    Therefore, when you acquire knowledge it is your choice whether to keep it to yourself or share it. Please don’t be self-fish learn to share so as to make this world a better place.

    I am only saying this to emphasise the need to read. The Bible says “By wisdom the earth’s foundation was formed.”

    Wisdom is gained through knowledge and the main source of knowledge is reading. You cannot make a wise decision without having the knowledge.

    “If a man empties his purse into his head, no man can take it away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest” ~ Benjamin Franklin.

    Conclusion

    Having a positive self-image can greatly accelerate your personal development and success process. We as human beings must always endeavour to improve our self-image after all we were created in the image of GOD.

    The more positive your self-image is the more confident you are, carrying about your daily life.

    This also gives you more confidence in achieving your, written-down life’s intended purpose. I know that there are many other ways that you can use to help improve your self-image. I would encourage you to take them one step at a time.

    Always remember that you are not in a race. Personal development is your own race and only move at the pace you set for yourself. You are not competing with anyone.

  • Why the Emotion of Fear is the Main Killer of Dreams

    Every normal and sane human being has dreams. Dreams of having a better and more successful life. 

    Dreams of having a life that is honourable and meaningful. One that is worthy and fulfilling. Dreams of living a legacy behind.

    However, you set out to achieve your dreams, is entirely your choice. It is your responsibility and it can never be transferred or delegated to someone else.

    Better still if you live to see your dreams through, is something that can only be driven by you alone. 

    Achieve your dreams and you will be in the category that everyone wants to be because most people have not lived to see their dreams fulfilled. 

    Equally, most people will never live to fulfill their dreams, not because they have no capacity but because they have been distracted by fear. 

    They have allowed the emotion of fear to defeat them. Look, fear is responsible for killing and delaying the attainment of many people’s dreams. 

    Those that are living their dreams are those that have boldly taken a step and are courageous to act. They have defeated the spirit of fear.

    “courage is the currency for success and fear is the currency for failure.”  So whatever currency you are trading in, more often than not, determines where you are in your life.

    If your major trading currency is “fear” you are probably where the majority of people are and if your major currency is “courage,” You are living your dream. If not you are on the right track.

    When you replace fear with courage, your results will definitely be the opposite of what you are experiencing now. You cannot get different results if you keep on doing the same things.

    Fear Is A Very Strong Emotion

    What is fear? “Fear is an emotion experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or danger (usually accompanied by a desire to flee or fight).” – Power Thesaurus.

    Fear is one of the strongest emotions among the 6 basic human emotions, which include happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, disgust and fear it self. 

    Because fear is such a strong emotion the human body’s reaction is to flee or rather engage in defensive mode.

    Usually, this emotion is triggered when the body feels threatened.

    However, fear is also defined as “a primal emotion that is important to survival and triggers a fight or flight response” – uwa. 

    Stronger emotions are usually very difficult to overcome. They tend to push us to do things that make us feel ‘safe’ or ‘comfortable.’ 

    This means trying by all means not to do the things that we think are going to cause us pain. Naturally, people do not want to be associated with or experience pain.

    But do you realise that you can never achieve your dreams without pain? I believe that the more pain you experience the sweeter the rewards. As the saying goes “no pain no gain.”

    If you avoid the road that leads you to temporary pain and decide to take the easier route the results will be different. You may enjoy success but I can guarantee you that it will not last a long time.

    Many of us are living substandard lives because we chose to take the easier route. The route that offers temporal success. 

    If only you can reroute your journey to take the road that has a little pain you will reap the rewards at the end of the road. It is never too late to make adjustments to your life. 

    Fear comes in two forms. There is “positive” and “negative” fear.

    Negative Fear

    This is fear that affects you in a negative way. Perhaps this is the most dangerous of the two.

    It is negative fear that is responsible for failure. When you experience negative fear your mind is just focused on the immediate solution for relief. Believe me most of the time, this is temporal relief.

    To make meaningful success with your life you must try by all means to suffer a little for a better future. Don’t be comfortable with the little relief that you may experience time and again. 

    Take advantage of the temporal relief to build on your future. If you concentrate only on temporal gratification you may end up missing your destiny. 

    Positive Fear

    This is the fear that drives you to success. The bible says “the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom” this is a positive statement and should be embraced.

    Positive fear has a lot of benefits. It makes you stick with your life’s plans. If you have to have fear, choose positive fear. 

    It Makes You Panic

    When you are gripped with fear there is a tendency to panic. It is a known fact that decisions made under fear are not usually the best.

    They are usually of a short-term nature and are not always sustainable in the long run. They are meant to get you out of a sticky situation almost immediately.

    I believe that the best decisions are made when you have peace of mind. When your mind is settled and un distracted. 

    Fear temporarily impairs your judgement. If you have to make a good judgement you must always make sure you postpone making important decisions to a later date. Avoid being in a hurry. 

    Defer them to a time when your mind is clear and focused. This way you will make decisions that will help you immensely. 

    It does not hurt to take time when making important personal life decisions that will impact your lively hood.

    Why should you not take time for a decision that will have more benefits for you? It is only reasonable and prudent that you take your time otherwise you may live to regret it.

    Fear Can Affect Your Health

    Even though fear prepares us to react to danger it is known to have a negative effect on people’s health. Fear has been known to weaken the immunity system.

    It also can interrupt processes in our brains that allow us to regulate emotions, read non-verbal cues and other information presented to us, reflect before acting, and act ethically. 

    This impacts our thinking and decision-making in negative ways, leaving us susceptible to intense emotions and impulsive reactions. All of these effects can leave us unable to act appropriately.

    Once your judgment is impaired you cannot make decisions that are long-lasting. Your primary focus is to get out of the current predicament at all costs. 

    Conclusion

    Do not allow the emotion of fear to be a disruption in your quest to achieve your life’s goals. Always find ways to overcome it and learn to move on. 

  • 5 Ways to Build Good Character for Yourself

    We all have skeletons in our closets. Some of the skeletons do not make us proud to look at. They remind us of the unpleasant bad past.

    There is no perfect individual on planet earth, non at all. Even the so-called righteous men and women of God have dark skeletons. Some are even, darker than can be imagined.

    However, there is room for all to live a changed life. What you did yesterday should not be allowed to discourage you from living a changed life.

    It should never be used as an excuse for refusing to do better. You can make a difference if you change the way of your life.

    You may not know it but we are role models for someone out there. Someone looks up to you. If you are a father or let me just say a parent, your children look up to you and it is your duty to bring them up in the right manner.

    I have made mistakes in my life, some of which am very embarrassed and ashamed to talk about. But you know what, I am ok with the mistakes because I cannot change them.

    I simply cannot change the past. I can only learn from the mistakes and move on and believe me, I have moved on and never going backwards.

    When I look back from where I’m coming from to where I am today, it can only be God and I am very grateful to him that he has allowed me to live a more decent and changed life.

    He has given me an opportunity for a fresh start. He has allowed me to write a new chapter in my life and I believe that there is a much bigger responsibility he has in stock for me.

    My focus for the remainder of my life is to help change the world for the better.

    Yes, there is so much more to work on, but my life is very different from what it was a few years back. I feel much more in control of myself and my well-being. It feels better to live like this.

    I feel God allows us to experience certain things for a reason. All those late nights I used to spend wasting away my life have helped me to stay late at night doing something constructive.

    You do not have to continue wasting your life away. You too can start living a positive and constructive life. There is room to change for all of us.

    Change the Way You Think

    They say an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. You cannot change your past. The past is nothing but history. However, you can change the course of your future by changing the way you think.

    All meaningful and long-lasting change begins with a changed mindset. If you want to see and experience significant change, start with your mind. Change your mind and begin to live a much more positive and happy life. Start where you are.

    Be the change you would like to see in the world. Stop complaining about things being wrong. Do something about them, fix them for goodness sake.

    Have you noticed that people who do not have much are always complaining about what they do have?

    Start from your home, if something is not being done properly do it yourself rather than complain. If your house is not being cleaned to your standards, clean it yourself.

    All am trying to say is that do something to change the status quo.

    The mind is the factory of what comes out. You are what you think about most of the time. Your mind is capable of creating the right environment for you.

    Change Your Associations

    If you want to see yourself progress, take time to reflect on the kind of associations you have. The relationships we maintain have a huge impact on our lives.

    Relationships that are not handled properly can be a distraction to your personal development.

    The associations you keep have an influence on your life. Start with your friends because they have a bigger influence on your social life. They say birds of the same feather flock together.

    Some of the people we hang around with are not beneficial. They are toxic. Cut of all relationships that have a negative influence on your life.

    You cannot expect meaningful change when you continue going to the club with your old pals if the problem you have is clubbing.

    If you are in a toxic relationship you need to sort that one out. For those that are not married yet, and are in toxic relationships, my advice is to quit the relationship. It is not worth it.

    If you are a girl and have a boyfriend that mistreats you, leave him. Find someone else. He will never change even when he marries you, in fact, chances are that he will be worse.

    Spiritual Growth

    The church is a good place to be. Find a Bible Based Church. You will find God-fearing people that can help you grow. For me, church is about service to the people.

    There is no greater feeling of satisfaction you can get than what you get when you are of service. A good church always encourages its members to be of service. We serve without expectation. We serve because we enjoy serving.

    There are some good folks you can find in church that will help you grow spiritually. You like it or not, spirituality is necessary for complete personal growth and transformation.

    Look, believe it or not, there is a supreme being somewhere. For me, I believe in the gospel of Jesus Christ and have found comfort in the church and reading the bible.

    Spiritual growth has many benefits, one of which is the growth of your faith and the promise of a better life.

    Have Self Control

    Self-control is the ability to restrain yourself from doing something adversely especially when you are emotionally charged.

    Learn to keep your emotions under control. Otherwise, you may end up doing something you will regret for the rest of your life.

    If you find yourself in an emotionally charged argument the best is to keep quiet and keep calm. Better still walk away. It is better to discuss when emotions have settled. That way you will be speaking with a cool head.

    Watch Your Words

    Watch your words and they become life. Be careful with what you say. They say words have life.

    The bible says “he spoke and it came to be.” I know that many of us have been careless with what we say especially when we are annoyed.

    But words truly have life, once spoken; you cannot reverse them. Yes, you may be sorry afterward but the damage would have already been done.

    Words are a direct expression of our feelings and emotions at a particular time.

    Make a decision every morning that you will not curse or swear during the day. That you will not be slanderous or say something that you do not mean.

    Make a decision that every word that comes from your mouth will be that of encouragement. It will not always go right but it is just the right thing to do.

    The magic word to use when you realise that you are wrong is I’m sorry, and please say it unconditionally.

    Conclusion

    Character is what defines a person. Change your ways and be of good character. There are many young people out there who need to be molded into young men and women with the character that can help change the world.

  • How to Enjoy the Journey of Your Life

    A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step in the right direction. Do not be discouraged by what you do not have. Your life’s journey is about to begin.

    “It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.” Ursula Le Guin.

    Today you begin to chart the course for the rest of your life. Forget about what you did not accomplish or achieve yesterday.

    What you do not have, should give you the motivation to move your life from where you are to where you want it to be. From The state of stagnation to a state of accomplishment.

    What you do not have, you cannot lose. The most important possessions you have right now are your life and your health. These are the two most important things you should worry about. Ensure you protect them at all costs.

    Many of us are living a life that we are not happy with. This should not discourage any of us from aiming to achieve more with our lives.

    You need to start from somewhere. You need to start from where you are. What lies ahead is more than what you have left behind.

    Your current situation or circumstances should instead give you motivation for working even harder to better your life. It will not be easy, but it can be done and it has been done before.

    Your source of encouragement should be, if someone has done it before then you can do it even better by learning from them because you are not reinventing the will but working with a proven method.

    Start From Where You Are

    Do not despise the days of your humble beginnings. Start with what you have and from where you are.

    Be dedicated to your cause and give it all you have. Regardless of what amount of resources you have, just get started. Along the way, you will learn to build more resources.

    Take stock of your current possessions, especially your personal skills set. You will be amazed to learn that you have far more than you thought you had. Your human capital is more than adequate to get you started.

    God has given all of us, unique talents to enable us to do something worthwhile with our lives. If only you can unlock them they are the gateway to a better and more fulfilling life for you. Life is much easier when you are doing what you love.

    If you have been waiting for the right moment to start,  today is that moment. It is the right time to take that leap of faith and move into the unknown.

    Today is the day you will look back with pride and appreciate that you took decisive action and stepped into the unknown.

    Your journey to conquer your fears and experience life begins with the step you are taking.

    Have courage and faith that you will enjoy your journey. Yes, there will be rough patches here and there, but with God by your side, you will triumph.

    Make Everyday Count

    Every day of your life is a blessing, make it count. You are the master of your soul. No one on this earth will make you happier than yourself.

    You are most happier when you are doing the things that you love doing. Time seems to stop when you are enjoying what you do.

    Enjoy these moments and make sure you do more of them very often. Life is too short to be sad. Make every day a special one.

    Not everything will go accordingly but decide to be happy regardless of the situation.

    You owe it to yourself to live a happy and fulfilling life. You are special in the eyes of God. Do not let anyone take that away from you.

    No one has the right to dictate or influence your current situation without your permission. Not even your spouse, your boyfriend, or whoever, they have absolutely no right without your permission.

    You cannot give an excuse that it was so and so who led me to do Something wrong. I find these excuses childish.

    If you are in the wrong place it is your choice. You can either stay or move, the choice is yours to make. But make sure to make the right choice.

    The best way we can contribute positively to humanity is by ensuring that our own lives are a reflection of what we want. If we profess Christianity people must see Christ living in us.

    We must be the change we want to see in the world. That change begins with you and I changing the way we think, the way we do things, and the way we treat others.

    Take Charge of Your Life

    You are responsible for your life. No one is answerable for your life. It is your right. If you think someone will give an account for you, then you are mistaken.

    Nature demands that each and every one of us account for our conduct. It also demands that we do the right things. I know that it is in our nature to do the right things.

    I also know that we have a tendency to do otherwise. God help us.

    Your life is in your hands. You are responsible for making sure that you account for it and make meaningful contributions to humanity. It is your duty to make the world a better place than you found it.

    Celebrate Your Small Achievements

    As you take on the journey of life, remember to always celebrate the small achievements you make. This will ensure that you stay motivated and keep on pushing.

    Success is made of the small achievements that we make along the way. These are the ones that motivate and inspire people to even do more.

    As you pursue and walk the journey of your life, enjoy your current moments and celebrate them with your loved ones.

    Conclusion

    Life is indeed a journey. You start off with people and as the journey progresses people disembark on different destinations. Still, the train of life continues to deliver people to various destinations. Make sure you make that first step in the right direction and never look back.

  • 2 Reasons Why You Are Responsible For Your Life

    “I am the captain of my soul. I am the master of my fate” – William Henley. If you didn’t know, now you know that you are solely responsible for your life. The choices and decisions you make are your responsibility.

    Stop blaming other people for your under achievements and take responsibility to correct them. Humans have a tendency of playing the blame game. We want to have an excuse for our failures and inadequacies.

    Most of the time we want to find someone or something to blame when things are not going right.

    But do you realise that most of the time, if not all time we are responsible for the outcome of our decisions?

    If you make poor or bad choices do you expect to have good or better results? Why then do you want to blame other people for your choices?

    This lack of being in control of our lives has cost many of us opportunities for growth.

    Look if I had been in total control of my life from a young age I know for sure that I could have achieved many things. Am pretty sure you can relate to this as well.

    However, the fact that I have not progressed as desired does not preclude me from being accountable for my life. It is my responsibility to ensure that I achieve and attain my God given destiny.

    I know for sure that we all want to live a good and pleasant. But, every good thing comes with a price.

    For you to live a good life you must first take responsibility and be prepared to pay the price and usually it is a very high one.

    Sometimes the small things we do may seem to be insignificant. Well you are wrong, success is doing the small things that need to be done and when added up they become significant.

    Being responsible makes you feel at peace with yourself. As human beings we do not like being associated with negative results. But remember that it is the movement from negative to positive that determines the level of your success.

    Personal development and self-improvement starts from being responsible for your life. When you are in control of your life it is much easier to chart the course for your life.

    Yes, things will not always go accordingly, but you will learn to handle disappointments more maturely and improve on your weaknesses.

    The Need to Be Accountable

    “Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to; all they need is one reason why they can” – Willis Whitney.

    “A desire to be in charge of our own lives, and a need for control is born in each of  us. It is essential to our mental health, and our success, that we take control” – Robert F. Bennett.

    When I was growing up I had no sense of accountability. For me life was just about enjoying myself and nothing else. But slowly as I approached my teens and advanced in my education things started to change.

    The demand from my Dad to perform better and keep up with school work, made me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life. At least then, it was out of fear of being reprimanded by my Dad.

    I thank God and give a lot of credit to my late Dad for the role he played in making me realise that I needed to be accountable for my life not only to myself but to him as well. This was a game-changer for my life.

    Being able to be accountable made me realise that I also needed to be in charge of my life. Because you will not be able to give a positive account if you do not know what you are doing. I think being accountable makes you responsible.

    Fast forward, am no longer accountable to my Dad but I have a wife and children that look up to me. Apart from God and society at large these are the people that am directly accountable to.

    You see because I now have my own family and they depend on me, I have learned that my life is not just about me. It is also about them. I need to strike a balance between my needs and also meet their needs.

    So far they have been very supportive of my work and I really thank them. But I do not take it for granted.

    Being accountable to someone makes you grow as an individual. It also helps you measure the level of your growth. If you do not have someone you are answerable to, it takes a lot of discipline to stay focused.

    I encourage you to find someone you can be answerable to. I know that the temptation especially for us men to wanting freedom is greater, but if you want to have better control of your life you need to have someone who can help you be in check.

    One Day You Will Be Answerable

    “Your talent is God’s gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God” – Leo Buscaglia.

    I believe in God and the resurrection and that we were all created by him. I also believe that there is a heaven and hell somewhere.

    The one who gives us life on a daily basis will one day demand an explanation of how we lived our lives on earth.

    We will be answerable to him, that is why we must try as much as possible to live according to his word.

    I have developed a never give up mentality because for every day that I wake up, I believe that God still has use for me.

    Oh yes, I know that some things have eluded me, but I also believe that there are much better opportunities to come for me.

    Always look to the brighter side of life. Stop complaining about going through the darkest side of life. If not you, then who?

    Get on and do the right thing bearing in mind that one day you will be answerable to your creator.

    Conclusion

    Life is too short. Focus from this day forward on making a difference. It is your responsibility to ensure that you attain your God-given destiny.

    With each choice you make, you create your life. Choose wisely and above all be responsible for your life.

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