Spirituality

  • Time to Change Relationships that Need to be Changed

    The year 2019 will be remembered as a year that came with a lot of change. It changed the order of doing things. We were all either affected and or infected by the virus that has continued to ravage the world, the COVID-19 pandemic.

    This change has been forced upon us. We have had to adapt to the new norm of doing things, such as wearing face masks, regular use of hand sanitisers, and taking extra precautions when going out in public. Social gatherings are restricted. But, like in every other challenge some people have thrived and some have, all but complained.

    The lessons taken from the preceding year are very valuable. The experiences of the closing year have taught us that we need to change some relationships going forward. There is need to readjust our lives to conform to the new order of doing things.

    Humans are well known for being social in nature. In Africa, we love large gatherings, be it social, political, spiritual, or whatever, we just love them. However, I don’t see this coming back in the shortest possible time. Surely for as long as the COVID-19 pandemic is around, life will not be as it was before.

    How to Make the Change

    A nice way to make the change, as we begin the new year is to identify your relationships and evaluate them. Clarify your relationships on how you would like them to affect the various aspects of your life. Then take the necessary action that you would expect to improve these relationships. You need to make rational goals.

    For example, the following relationships have a bearing on my life:-

    • Finances/money
    • Family
    • Work
    • Health
    • Friends
    • Spirituality
    • Website

    I will take the relationship with finances/money as an example. Am sure that most of us have a story to tell on this one. If your relationship with finances is not as good as it should be, maybe you are struggling to make earns meet or maybe your current job does not pay as much as you should be getting.

    List down your monthly expenses and compare them with your current income. Now, list down your desired expenditure and compare it with your current income. Your desired expenditure is what you would like to be spending on a monthly basis without stressing.

    Identify and cut down on unnecessary expenditure. Find more ways to improve your earnings to supplement your current paycheck. If your current job is not flexible enough to allow you to do extra work maybe, it is not the right job for you.

    Invest in your skills by getting an education that will help enhance your career and productivity. Read more about how to manage finances/money. Have definite, realistic, and achievable goals that will keep you motivated. Work on your goals every day.

    This year I have set a target to create passive income for myself. It seems hard work for now, but I think it will pay off as this will greatly improve my income and free up time for me. I have identified a few sources that I think are worth trying out. I will be sharing during the course of the year on the progress.

    You may be asking, what if you do not realise your goals within the time frame? Well, you can adjust the time frame, the most important thing is, you have a target you are working towards. You have something to work with.

    One of the reasons why we have a poor relationship with our finances is that we work for money instead of letting money work for us.

    Set Resolutions for the Year

    One way of keeping track of your progress is to have a set of written down resolutions and a habit of reviewing them on a regular basis. This year resolve to improve on your shortcomings. Resolve to improve on those poor relationships that are greatly affecting your life negatively.

    Make resolutions and work towards achieving them. Start with a few that can easily be managed. This will encourage and challenge you to move on to those that will take you much longer and are seemingly difficult to repair or manage.

    The best time for me to make resolutions is usually at the beginning of the calendar year. However, there is no rule, you can actually make them at any time of the year and begin to work on them as you please. But you must make and work them anyway.

    It is a good idea to have resolutions that are precise and measurable. This way, when you are reviewing them, you will be able to determine how much progress has been made and determine if there is need for adjustment. I normally review mine on a quarterly basis.

    Yes, I know that sometimes I lag behind. By, reviewing my resolutions on a regular basis ensures that am reminded of them and can easily get to work on improving those that have remained behind. I find it normal that there are always some that I carry forward into the following year.

    Be Optimistic

    To be optimistic is to be hopeful and confident about the future. Being optimistic is key in ensuring that you achieve the resolutions that you have set. It is an important ingredient to have when we have set targets for ourselves.

    Otherwise, there is no point in setting goals and resolutions that you are not optimistic about achieving. That is why it is important to set goals and resolutions that are fairly reasonable and achievable.

    That nice feeling you get when you have accomplished a task should be repeated more often. It should be what drives you to even greater heights. You must make it your driving force and leverage on it to push you in your quest for personal development and self-growth.

    Being optimistic is a great sign of confidence in what you are doing. It shows that you are in control and are expectant of positive results. Yes, sometimes results may not be as expected. But this should not make you give up.

    Conclusion

    If you want to succeed you must develop a habit of setting resolutions at the beginning of every year. This helps you set the tone and pace and what you are going to achieve during the year. It gives you a sense and purpose to live life.

    For changes to be of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent” – Tony Robbins.

  • Count Your Blessings

    “Count your blessings” – Og Mandino. This is perhaps one of the most common quote I have come across without really digesting the meaning. As simple and popular as the quote may be, very few of us have actually sat down and done what it says.

    That is counting our blessings. With the fast-changing and demanding world of today, people are busy with the hussle and bustle of life. Some have turned into perpetual complainants. “I should have this and that; I am not this and that; maybe I should be this and that.” Well, maybe you should stop complaining and count your blessings.

    Start by counting yourself lucky that you are alive, which is the most important thing. The fact that you are alive gives you a chance to have a go at anything.

    The fact that you are alive is testament enough that God still has use for you. Count yourself lucky. Some people went to bed last night and never woke up.

    Even more is the fact that if you have a roof or shelter over your head and your family is standing beside you, means you are even more blessed.

    Perspectives on Circumstance

    Have you ever realized that there are more people in a much worse position than you are in? If you are able to read this article on the internet I would consider you very lucky and privileged. The fact that you are going through a difficult situation does not necessarily mean you are not blessed.

    Thank your creator that; you are alive and not dead; you are better than the man who sleeps on the streets and does not know where his next meal will come from, later on know where his going to rest his head.

    No matter what your circumstances may be, be rest assured that someone out there is in a worse situation than you.

    I am not trying to condemn your position nor encourage you to stay in your current position but merely trying to uplift you so that you look to the brighter side of life. Also, know that some of those who have succeeded in life have come from much worse situations than yours.

    The difference is that they turned their difficult circumstances and seized the opportunity and moved on from there. So every challenge comes with hidden opportunities.

    If you are in a position of need I believe that “necessity is the mother of invention” – Proverb.

    Every product has its purpose, a reason behind its creation. Think about it! Instead of waiting for opportunities to come to you, take the initiative. If you’re hungry for success, seek out work, earn your rewards, and invest in your dreams. Don’t sit idle; take action and make things happen!

    Count it all Joy

    Maybe you are in a job that does not pay you enough; well, first and foremost money is never enough and secondly, thank God, you at least have an income to count on. Life is such that the more you earn the more you spend. The more money you make the more financial challenges you will face.

    Maybe your business is not doing fine; at least you are trying and doing something. Count it all joy in everything you are doing because your blessing is on the way.

    Keep the faith and always remember to give thanks to your creator for whatever little you have. Growth comes from the small things that we get and when put together they become big.

    Learn to be happy with what you have and thank God Almighty for it. Have you ever given a small child a gift, even though it is not enough and they say thank you dad for the toy with a smile on their face? How does that make you feel? It is exactly the same with our creator but, he has more compassion than you and I can comprehend. I just feel that it is polite to say thank you for any gift you receive.

    Do Not Despair You are Blessed

    Why do you despair for it is written “do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes” – the Bible. Instead, take time to appreciate what you have.

    Many times we do not realize that half a loaf in your hands is better than none. Appreciate the children that you have; thank God for your wife or husband; thank him for your life, there is so much to be thankful for even in your current situation.

    Take a minute to think that right now as you are reading this article there are some people gasping for air in hospitals yet, you are freely taking in the same air without a gasp. Forget about your worries and start counting your blessings.

    Conclusion

    I hope this article has helped you realize that you are such a blessed human being and that if you are going through trials and tribulations consider them as challenges. Imagine life without challenges. Wouldn’t that be boring? I believe that after every storm comes calmness.