Self Growth

  • How to Manage Your Time More Effectively and Efficiently

    Time management is a critical aspect of life that many of us have not mastered. Most of the time we are not overwhelmed with work, we are just disorganized.

    If you take just a little time every morning to organise and prepare for the day you will spend the rest of the day being very productive. You will have planned to succeed for that day.

    Most of us just wake up and get going without actually planning for what we want to achieve for the day. Believe me, not planning is actually planning for failure.

    Planning ahead helps you manage your time effectively and efficiently. It helps you focus on your daily goals and reduces time wastage. Remember that time is always in short supply.

    Yes, things may not go accordingly but you will try as much as possible to stick with what you want to achieve. When you have a plan in place you are more focused on achieving your goals than wasting time on nonproductive issues. 

    There are many ways you can utilise to help manage your time, but here are a few suggestions that you can add to your current list. 

    Wake Up Early

    Waking up early gives you a heads start, it provides you with more time and energy to get things done early when your mind and body are still fresh. It also gives you ample time to plan your day and start working on preparing your mood for the day.

    Yes, I know that sleep is equally important, but the body also needs to be worked. There are many things that can be achieved and accomplished early in the morning when your body is usually at its best and is well rested. 

    You will have all the sleep you need in the world when you have achieved your goals. Remember that if you sleep too much you will have very little time to accomplish your goals.

    If there is one limited commodity that is common to all human beings it is time and time is always in short supply. How you utilise it will largely determine how much you will accomplish with your life. 

    The more you spend time sleeping the less you will achieve with your life. That is why even at an early stage in life we wake up early in the morning to prepare for school. There are very few schools that require you to attend in the afternoon.

    They say “the earthly bird catches the worm.”  Usually, the early risers achieve much more than the late risers. They are the pacesetters. They also say that “latecomers eat bones.”

    So there is always an advantage when you start your day early. 

    Create A To-Do List

    Another good practice is creating a to do list. This is probably a game-changer. A do-to-list acts more or less like a compass. It directs what you should do at a particular time or after a certain activity.

    A to-do list is a very good way of organising your time. Most of the time when you have a guide you will try as much as possible to stick with it. You may deviate at some point but you will eventually drift back to your guide.

    It is best to create a to-do list in the morning before you do anything else. Better still it can be done in the evening before going to sleep and read it in the morning before you step out. 

    Tick off the list as you go along the way. Start with the most important items and move on to the least important. If it can be delegated please go ahead and delegate. If you have to maximise your efficiency learn to delegate. 

    Delegation is not a sign of weakness but is a sign of having confidence and trust in other people. It promotes group relationships if you are a leader. It also motivates the people you work with and makes them feel relevant to your life. 

    Set Deadlines

    Deadlines deadlines deadlines. Most people do not like to hear about deadlines. They dread them. But, nothing in this life lasts forever. Everything comes to end at some point or the other and this is where deadlines come in. Even your life will come to an end one day just be prepared for the afterlife.

    If you have worked in an environment like audit firm, where deadlines are strictly emphasied and adhere to, you should have no problem setting and meeting deadlines. You will also agree with me that deadlines act as a barometer to gauge your performance. 

    Always set deadlines for your goals and try as much as possible to beat them. When you set a deadline your mind is tuned in and is constantly reminded about the approaching deadline. 

    Setting deadlines also helps to monitor your progress. I know that sometimes we miss our deadlines for various reasons. Don’t worry or panic, simply reevaluate why you missed them, adjust and start working on them again.

    You will achieve more when you set activity deadlines. You will also easily progress to the next task at hand. Remember that doing the same things over and over can sometimes be very boring, so finish quickly and move on to something new. 

    Your aim should be to set realistic goals and deadlines that can be achieved and measurable. This should, however, not be a limitation to challenge your capability and capacity to handle more complex challenges.

    Work Your List

    Writing down lists is a very good thing. But without taking action, lists are useless. They become an academic exercise. Just like anything else without action, there can never be any meaningful achievement.

    You must have an actionable list every day. Find the motivation and courage to work your list. It is only by working your list that you will know how far you can go.

    Every day gather enough motivation and keep focused on taking action to working your list. Slowly but surely results will begin to flow in.

    Review your list in the evening to see what has been accomplished and what is still to be done. Roll over the leftover to the next day. Don’t worry about what hasn’t been done. There could be a thousand reasons.

    Only worry about those items that have not been done because of you. Remember you have control over what you can do.

    Don’t live your lists un attended to but make them an integral part of your life. Learn to carry a small notebook around that has your to-do list.

    Be Consistent

    Consistency is the mother of all success. You cannot be successful without being consistent. If you are consistent in doing the small things regularly, within a short period of time they will amount to many things.

    Being consistent is usually what makes the difference between success and failure. Those who are successful are very consistent with what they do. They do not stop even when they are faced with challenges.

    They never give up but instead, they find solutions to the current challenges. In the end, the challenges give in or they are subdued.

    Create the tenacity and ability to always be consistent when pursuing your cause for life.  

    Conclusion

    You may be surprised at how much time you spend being on social media reading gossip or watching video clips that do not add much value to your life. Managing your time requires you to reevaluate how you spend it and on what you are spending it on. 

    Only time will tell if you have been successful with your life or not. Your job is to master how to manage your time efficiently and effectively. Be time conscious. 

  • 7 Tips for Home Improvement on a Small Budget

    Embarking on a home improvement project with a small budget can be a very daunting and challenging exercise. What with sky-rocking prices of materials and tools, the challenge becomes even more difficult to undertake. 

    However, this is possible with some planning and creativity. With prudent management and a bit of creativity to ensure that the right materials are in place, it is doable.

    You will be amazed at what can be achieved on a merger budget. Most of the time we are too shy or rather scared to start something, especially when we are low on resources.

    We always think it can be done only when we have saved enough resources. But life as it, never gives you enough from the start. 

    But, rather it allows you to grow with what you have and not what you do not have. Sometimes a little confidence is all it takes to start working on something.

    If you are resolved to undertake the project but are low on resources, here are some tips to help you implement a home improvement project. 

    Planning Ahead

    Before you start any project, create a plan of what you want to achieve with what resources you have available. This will help you stay within your budget and avoid unexpected expenses.

    Planning ahead makes things a little bit easier. It gives you a proper direction of what you want to achieve and how you will go about it.

    With limited resources at your disposal, there is very little room for error, hence the need to create a plan that is solid. 

    A plan that will really guide and help you achieve your objectives with a small budget. However, do not over plan. 

    Many of the time we tend to over plan as a result, nothing gets done in the process as we lose focus and are bogged down with life issues. 

    However, this is not to undermine the importance of planning. It should be the first thing to be done. A good plan surely guarantees a good start.

    Prioritise

    Decide on which home improvements are most important to you and tackle them first. This will help you avoid spending money on unnecessary upgrades.

    Some improvements may not be regarded as a priority. Yes, they may need to be worked on but they could be regarded as non-priority.

    Organise your work in such a way that you first tackle the ones that really need attention and move to the least on your list.

    This way, you will be able to deal with urgent repairs and or improvements effectively. Funds permitting you then start tackling the least urgent ones. 

    Rather than work on everything at the same time, start small with what you can afford. Betters still, target a section at a time.

    Don’t be tempted to work on everything at once bearing in mind that you are on a shoestring budget. Work on what your money will allow for now. Leave those that need more resources for a later stage.

    Do It Yourself

    Doing some of the work yourself can save you a lot of money on labour costs. There are many tutorials and resources online that can help you learn how to do various home improvement tasks.

    For sure DIY can save you lots of money. If you have kids, involve them. Kids just love getting dirty and involving them is also one way of teaching them how to work. 

    Give them tasks that they will be able to do in a fun way. Motivate them by giving them an incentive. Depending on how old they are, you will be amazed by what they can do.

    Personally, I enjoy and love doing things myself. It has actually saved me a lot of money on labour and besides its good exercise.

    When you do things yourself you take time and do them the way you want. Some of these home improvements can actually be done without much difficulty.  

    Shop Around for Materials and Tools

    Compare prices at different home improvement stores or online retailers to find the best deals on materials and tools.

    Before committing to spend on materials, shop around and take note of the prices. Make decisions such as replacing branded materials and tools with non-branded substitutes.

    You will agree with me that branded items are usually more expensive than unbranded ones.  And sometimes, the unbranded items are also of good quality yet less expensive. 

    Shopping around could save you tons of money. Yes, it could be tedious but it’s worth it. It also gives you an idea of how much you will need to spend on materials and tools.

    Use Recycled Materials and or Tools

    Look for ways to repurpose or reuse materials and tools from other projects or items in your home to save money.

    Some materials could be reused or recycled. Look around your home for leftover items from previous projects.

    If you are undertaking a painting exercise for example, am sure the paint brushes and rollers from the previous project could still be reused.

    Things like leftover paint, if you are not changing the colour could be reused. Such items and materials would really go a long way in reducing your overall cost.

    Also, try as much as possible to improvise where you can. Most of the time we do not want to think outside the box. 

    Make Small Changes

    Sometimes small changes can make a big difference in the look and feel of a room. Consider things like painting, updating light fixtures, or adding new accessories.

    Get rid of the old stuff that is not being used. Free up some space and reorganise the room to give it a new look and feel.

    It is the small things that end up making the big things. Change a few things here and there and see if they are what you are looking for. Home improvement does not necessarily have to be a wholesale change. 

    Get Creative

    Look for creative solutions to problems. For example, instead of replacing an outdated bathroom vanity, consider painting it and adding new hardware.

    Being creative can help you find solutions to problems, improve your mood, and increase your overall sense of well-being. 

    In the context of home improvement, being creative can involve finding innovative ways to use materials or repurposing items you already have to achieve the look and feel you want for your home without spending a lot of money.

    Conclusion

    By following these few tips, you can embark on a home improvement project on a small budget and still achieve great results.

  • The Dawn of a Season

    “Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending” ~ Carl Bard.

    Take heart and give way to the new season. This is my first article for this New Year since my website was hacked.

    Time flies and waits for no one. Whether you like it or not time will not wait for you.

    We have just been ushered into a new season and it is still the right time to start afresh or build up on the gains achieved from the past season. 

    If you are like me and like to set new goals please go ahead and set them. Set this season as the turning point that will see you grow your weakest areas of your life.

    In order to grow you must obtain what is necessary for your growth but, as you are at all time a complete thought entity, this completeness makes it possible for you to receive only as you give; growth is therefore conditioned on reciprocal action just the same as like attracts like.

    The challenge for you this year is to obtain what is necessary for your growth; to stop those detrimental habits; to build on your business skills; to improve on interpersonal relationships and to grow spiritually.

    The Challenge

    “How you respond to the challenge in the second half will determine what you will become after the game, whether you are a winner or loser” ~ Lou Holtz.

    Think for a moment, what you would be if you were not a husband or wife, father or mother, or brother or sister, if you were not interested in the social, economical, political or religious world.

    What then would you be? Think about what you were last year; how much you achieved; and how much more you did not achieve; do you want to stay in the same position or do you want to climb the ladder of self-improvement or would you rather take a few steps backwards?

    The challenge therefore, for is to find the right combination and balance of tools or rather characteristics for a more fulfilling personality.

    The target should be to find the right ingredient’s necessary for growth. In order to grow you must then, obtain what is essential for growth.

    Your growth then is dependent on what you take in. Remember first that all growth is from within and that you are the source of that growth. Note that you are also the source of your own growth. 

    To ensure that you reach the optimum growth levels for this year you must make sure that you develop the right mental attitude. This will mean a constant renewal of the mind. One must make a deliberate policy to buy and read self-improvement and development books. It also means that you need to focus more on the positive things in life.

    Manage Your Thoughts

    It is very amazing to know that all things in the world began as a thought. Even at creation I believe that, God must have first thought before speaking.

    The saying “as a man thinks so is he in is heart” holds water for me. You always produce what you think. Your outside world is a true reflection of your inside world.

    If you think cheap you come out cheap. If you set your mind on mediocrity you get exactly that and vice versa.

    I can challenge you that nothing in this world has ever been invented without first being conceived as a thought or an idea by someone.

    Noticed that the world has a way of giving us back what we predominantly harbour as thoughts.

    This then makes me realize that one of the most important tool we have as human beings is the mind which is the thinking organ.

    If you can master the thoughts you hold, believe me, you are destined for greatness. In this new season, challenge yourself to begin mastering and managing your mind.

    Be Proactive and not Reactive

    The human nature is that of being reactive. Meaning we always wait for the situation to happen and then react after wards.

    This means that most of the time we are firefighting. That is the difference between successful individuals and those of us that are struggling with life.

    If you want to be ahead you must be proactive and not reactive. I used to be like this and I can confess that this firefighting syndrome has not completely gone away.

    The best way to handle life is to be prepared for every eventuality. To be proactive is to take measures in advance for an event that will occur including the unexpected.

    Like I said this is a new season and with it comes a new tide of everything. The challenge this season is to build on the little gains achieved for being proactive and not reactive. Being reactive is a sign of laziness and no lazy person can be successful.

    Conclusion

    As per tradition for me every New Year is a new season and I always make resolutions and set goals for it.  This is one of the best tools I use to measure my progress towards reaching my personal development goals.

    I hope and trust that you have formulated one for yourself to keep you going.

  • How to Learning From Failure

    One of the major reasons why we do not succeed is the refusal to learn from our mistakes and challenges.

    People do not realise that failure can be a very powerful tool to assess your performance and find meaningful ways to improve yourself.

    Ask yourself about the day’s failures and successes and what can be gleaned, then hold yourself accountable.

    Take note of those factors that contributed to your day’s failure they surely will not go away without you taking action.

    I don’t know the key to success but the key to failure is to try to please everyone.”  – Bill Cosby.

    The above quote just summarises everything about our failures.

    Many of us have never attempted to venture out in business or indeed pursue something that we have always longed to do, held back by the fear of failing.

    I know that failing is part of life. The difference between successful people and the average guy is the way failure is handled.

    The successful guys always make it a point to learn from their mistakes and failures, whereas most of us just stop at failure.

    If you don’t make it point to sit down and analyse the causes of your failure you will not succeed at whatever you do.

    Learning from failure is therefore an important aspect of being successful so is taking time to analyse your daily failures (no matter how small).

    The following tips may help you learn from your failures and help to improve on them.

    Ask Yourself Questions

    I encourage you to take a few minutes each day to reflect on your day. This simple habit is highly beneficial and requires just about 15 minutes.

    If you can, get a piece of paper and a pen and write down the points. You will realise that most or some of the important decisions are made in the serenity of your home or just before bedtime.

    When your mind is relaxed. Some useful questions to ask yourself would be:-

    • what failures did I experience today?
    • what are the lessons to be learned from them?
    • how do I change them or improve on them?
    • is there any need for me to have external help?

    At first, it may seem cumbersome to review your day but you will agree with me that every time you have an important decision to make, you will usually sleep over it, and in most cases, decisions are made just before sleeping and reviewed in the morning.

    That’s just how the mind works. You may also want to take note of your successes made during the day.

    Have a Plan and be Accountable

    Draw a plan of action. Remember that those attributes that contributed to your failure will not go away until action is taken.

    If there is one thing I believe in, it is making decisions. They have to be made wrong or right and action taken.

    By taking action you are moving a step closer to successfully achieving your intended goal or purpose.

    In your plan include what behaviours you think you need to improve on or change.

    Secondly, be accountable. If you are in business find a very responsible partner and be accountable to them.

    In my years of work experience, I have observed that accountability is lacking in many individuals.

    You can also be accountable to yourself but please be honest.

    One of the best ways to be accountable to yourself is to put yourself on the other side.

    Imagine that you are the leader and expect results from your subordinate. What quality of results do you want from your junior?

    How would you react if the results are not as you expected and what would you have done?

    Answering these questions may help you be more accountable.

    Let Your Plan Guide You

    Stick to your plan. Let your plan be the guide. If you have a partner you are accountable to, ensure that he is strict on you until you change your daily patterns that contribute to your failures.  

    It takes time patience and repetition to improve. One of the best ways to succeed is by sticking to your plan. Ensure that you have a good plan and keep improving on it.

    Do not be rigid as to not realise that plans can be revised to make improvements.

    Conclusion

    We all fail a little every day. We can learn from those small failures as well as daily successes when we reflect.

    I know that there can never be success without failure. I have not come across a successful person who has never failed.

    Do not feel discouraged when you fail the first time, after all, success is synonymous with failure.

    We all have failed at some point in life and will keep failing every day but always be accountable for your actions and above all “standout be counted.

  • Motivation, the Heart of Self Improvement

    “Have your heart in your life’s work, and be stout-hearted. Do something, act always, and do it now. Don’t be afraid. Many a man has been defeated by his doubts—lack of confidence. Take your risks —you cannot eliminate them, you cannot escape them. You can diminish them by dominating them.” ~ Batten’s Wedge

    This article is an excerpt from the book “believe it and you will achieve it.”

    Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. Getting flunked grades makes us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income.

    Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassment.

    It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need in order to improve ourselves.

    With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? Try on the tips prepared from A to Z.

    A – Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things, and places. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

    B – Believe in yourself, and in what you can do. You are the only obstacle to you success.

    C – Consider things from every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

    D – Don’t give up and don’t give in. Thomas Edison failed once, twice, more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. Make motivation your steering wheel.

    E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

    F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t lose sight of them. Embrace and enjoy their presence.

    G – Give more than what is expected. Motivation and self-improvement happen everywhere—at work, at home, and at school. True growth occurs when you put in extra effort and go beyond the minimum required.

    H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force. Your dreams will define the kind of legacy you want to leave behind.

    I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. Don’t let other people get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hate to hear about your success.

    J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone. The more you try to please everyone the more frustrated you will get.

    K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way for self-improvement.

    L – Learn to love yourself. Now isn’t that easy? Probable the easiest thing to do.

    M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes. Things do not happen without effort.

    N – Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game. The truth will always set you free. Build trust by being truthful.

    O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse’s attitude and sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be.

    P – Practice makes perfect. Practice is about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

    Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter or a winner?

    R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. We must hear the little voice within, telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

    S – Stop procrastinating immediately and take decisive action without delay. Procrastination only hinders your progress and prevents you from reaching your full potential. By overcoming the habit of putting things off, you can increase your productivity, reduce stress, and achieve your goals more efficiently.

    T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self-control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.

    U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second. Communication is very key your wellbeing.

    V – Visualize it clearly in your mind. Motivation without vision is like a boat stranded on dry land, unable to move forward or reach its destination.

    W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.

    X – X-Factor is what will make you different from others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” in your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

    Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks acts or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

    Z – Zero in with absolute focus on your dream and confidently go for it with determination and passion!!!

    Conclusion

    Zelda Fitzgerald once said “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold”. That is why when you put your heart to something it stands out.

  • 5 Ways to Improve Your Confidence

    This is one of my long articles. Feel free to bookmark it and come back later to finish reading it.

    Self-confidence is something that people find difficult to have. There are people who have low self-confidence and it influences the way they see themselves and their performance.

    Contrary to what most people think, self-confidence is not something that only the gifted and blessed could have it is available to all.

    With the help of personal mastery, individuals could now start building on their self-confidence.

    You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face” Eleanor Roosevelt.

    Self-confidence is a requisite to personal development. Having an improved self-confidence can really improve your general work output.

    Personal mastery is about self-development and self-improvement. It is about loving yourself and accepting yourself as you are.

    You need to acknowledge your weaknesses and at the same time strengthen them. To improve your self-confidence it is important to know and accept your weaknesses.

    I believe that identifying your weaknesses is the first step to personal improvement. Many of the time we like to ignore our weaknesses and concentrate mainly on perfecting our strengths.

    I have written down my weaknesses and strengths and keep reviewing them time and again. I have found this very helpful and would recommend it to anyone.

    To attain personal mastery and confidence, it is important to believe in yourself. It is also important to be content with yourself.

    Self-belief and contentment leads to building a solid self-confidence. It is very difficult to achieve personal development without being content with yourself.

    To develop self-confidence, self-acceptance should occur.  Self-acceptance is about accepting not only the good things in life but also the failures in life.

    Failure is only failure if accepted. You must always treat failure as a learning curve.

    When you fail the first time re-organise yourself, analyse your failure and move on. Do not stop at failure.

    And now the suggested five ways to help you improve your self-confidence

    Understand Your Thoughts and Emotions

    Many of us find it very difficult to understand our thoughts and emotions, yet understanding these can unlock huge potential for improving self-confidence.

    Forgetting about a bad habit or behaviour would make us more aware of our thoughts and emotions.

    By becoming aware of our emotions and behaviour, then we will be able to overcome and correct our behaviour.

    Behavioural control and correction are some of the key important elements to improving self-confidence.

    I have noticed that a lack of confidence is mainly our negative behaviour and most of the time we are very aware of it.

    It is very rare that if you put on your positive behaviour you will experience low self-confidence.

    Understanding your emotions is very critical. Your emotions will usually dictate your mood.

    It is therefore important that we always try to replace our negative emotions with good ones.

    A few practical ways to know your emotions is to observe and write down the feelings and emotions you experience; observe and or write down the preceding events and duration of your emotions.

    I have noticed that with time my emotions are largely affected by my thoughts. Hence I always try to keep my thoughts positive.

    By knowing the root cause for your emotions you can learn to take control of them.

    Flee from sorrowful emotions and make the decision to improve your mood. You deserve to be happy.

    Self-discipline

    Self-discipline is perhaps the number one factor for self-growth. Without discipline very little can be achieved in life.

    I have not come across a successful person who is indisciplined. When we set our goals on achieving our intended purposes in life, discipline and focus is what keeps us from swaying away from them.

    We graduate with flying colours from school because we are disciplined to study and work hard.

    Changing attitude and behaviour, or even perspective might take a while.

    Change does not happen overnight. You need to gather enough knowledge and start learning and practicing the skills that you would like to improve and develop.

    To do this you need to be disciplined. This is an essential ingredient that is found wanting in many of us.

    Discipline comes through self-control. This means that one must control negative qualities.

    Have a Clear Vision

    To be able to move forward with your life, it is important to have clarity. Have your life’s purpose written down.

    Seeing what you want to have in a clearer image would encourage you to work for it. That is why it is important that you write down your intended purpose in life and read it every day.

    I would encourage you to read it every night. I read almost mine every night before going to sleep.

    Having a defined purpose in life acts as a guide and motivation for living.

    I know that most of us live by the day. If you do not have a defined purpose and vision for yourself, I encourage you to think about formulating one immediately.

    At first, your vision might not be as clear as you might want it to be, but just start working on it.

    You will begin to see a clearer picture of your destination as you take action to achieve your destiny.

    You will be amazed at how much self-confidence you can have just by writing down your intended purpose in life.

    You Have a Choice

    You can choose what you want to experience. Doing something important for you and something you love, would give you enough confidence to continue with what you have started.

    The beauty of being human is that God gave us a choice. You have the will to choose whatever you want to be.

    You can choose to be confident or not. We are made up of the choices we make in life.

    If you take a look at yourself you will realize that you are where you are because of the choices you have previously made.

    It is therefore wise to make choices that are self-building. I know that some choices are difficult to make but, remember that, choices are there to be made and they have to be made.

    You have a choice and the choice is yours. Bear in mind that the choices we make today have a direct effect on our tomorrow.

    We are continuously shaping our future by the choices we are making today.

    Commitment and Trusting

    To be able to attain personal mastery for development and growth, you need to trust that you can undergo the process and commit yourself to the process.

    When developing self-confidence through personal mastery, we would have to develop some characteristics.

    We would develop self awareness, which is about our readiness to look at our past, accept it and the same goes for the present.

    Aside from this, we also develop self-knowledge which is about understanding our past and our attitude.

    Not only should we understand them but also be able to comprehend the basis for such attitude or experience.

    Last, we develop self-discipline.  Self-discipline is about how we make sure that our goals and vision are translated into action and are achieved.

    We need self-discipline to make sure that we do not back out just because of simple and little disappointments and setbacks.

    Conclusion

    Building self-confidence can’t be done on just a snap. Self-improvement is a never-ending process.

    Self-improvement is a lifelong commitment. Sometimes, we can only say that we are fully masterful of our life if we have reached our dreams and goals.

    Improving our confidence can help with growth and eventually with success. We just need to continue with our dreams and be patient.

     

  • Believe in Yourself

    Everyone has that earnest aspiration to succeed. One’s ability to establish and accomplish goals will mold one’s happiness and success over and above any skill, one can ever realize.

    You cannot hit the target when you cannot see it. In order to succeed, you must set yourself goals and targets to be achieved.

    It is very important to set out a vision and an intended purpose for your life. Success is not a destination but a journey.

    The foundation and point of origin of success is when you decide exactly what you really and truly want, in all aspects of your life.

    This is the starting point of your success journey. The journey to success is indeed a difficult and bumpy one.

    You will need to believe in yourself and continue to build on that belief.

    One of the pillars that make me continue with my journey to success is self-belief. I strongly believe in myself and what I do.

    Yes, there are times when I feel it’s not going right, but that’s what makes it even more interesting and challenging.

    If every individual has that yearning for winning which we all have, and if success is accessible to everybody which it is, why then, only a few succeed?

    I guess this is a million-dollar question. This is because only a few have believed in their potential, and most of all, only a few started by defining and acknowledging a goal, and truly believe in their spirit and minds that they can achieve that goal.

    Belief is perhaps a driving force to success. You cannot succeed without belief.

    Take a look at the Barack Obama’s of this world. Who would have thought that an African American would one day rule one of the most powerful nation of the world?

    When you listen to or read Obama’s speeches, it’s clear that he possesses a deep confidence in himself. Similarly, Henry Ford was another individual known for his strong self-belief, and countless others share this trait.

    Just wishing for something is so much different from being able and prepared to accept it.

    Nobody is ever truly prepared to accept or embrace anything until they genuinely believe deep down in their heart and mind that they have the ability to obtain it and make it a reality in their life.

    One way to believe that you can obtain something is to conceive it in your mind. See your success and live a successful life in your mind.

    The belief to succeed begins with the transmuting of your mind. “You are what you think of most of the times.”

    The mind must first be in a state of believing and not just hoping or wishing for something.

    An open mind is important in believing and a closed mind never inspires courage, faith, or the power to believe.

    Almost everyone has gone through difficult life encounters and experiences.

    These experiences and encounters usually define one’s existence, becoming important educators on life’s course.

    However, the enemy, which is that negative force within often would recognize these difficult experiences as symbols of thyself that one is not “good enough” in order to succeed. Simply put, this is fear from within.

    Fear, according to psychologists is normal and a natural line of attack focused on life’s adjustments and changes.

    Fear is what prevents one from doing “crazy or stupid things”; but it may be carried to a great extent.

    When a person fears nothing, they may be seen as “mad” or “foolish.” However, fearing almost everything, especially the fear of taking risks, can make one appear a plain coward.

    The enemy inside of you will tell you that your fear is reasonable when it is transitory.

    As the mind dictates your fear, it also dictates your thoughts and your actions.

    When you believe in your mind that relationships are complicated and demand so much effort, you will indeed attract those individuals who will cause difficulty in the relationship or demand a lot of effort from you.

    More significantly, when you worry regarding something that you essentially believe in negative outcomes, then so the results of your actions will be.

    Of course, it does not occur every time that you think and believe negatively, because although there is worry and apprehension inside you, there is still, in that little corner of your heart, of your mind, that you hope for a positive result.

    So then, that power prevents disaster from happening. Yet worrying through and through, without a small spark of hope, then beware, disaster is sure to come!

    However, there is so much more to faith and believing than simply creating beliefs.

    Possessing “positive beliefs” in the mind is the initial step towards making a positive outlook, resulting in a successful life.

    Believing, taking note is something entirely different. For instance, you have “positive beliefs” with regard to money; at the same time, you believe that many ways are offered in order to acquire money.

    Yet if for any reason, you do not believe you will be able to make money, then you will not make that amount of money that you want.

    Here are three things to help you get through fear and help develop your self-belief:

    • Your belief should be superior, exceeding fear. It will entail a lot of effort, but as much as you can, try to closely observe and listen to the inside of you.  Look around and see what is functioning well in your personal or business life and what is not. Small or great, profess your successes.
    • Believe that you can reach great things and as early as now, begin counting your blessings. Remember the bible says “do not despise the days of your humble beginnings.” Success does not come at once. You work through your success. God does not bless abundantly if you cannot even manage the small things that are in your possession right now. To work through your success you need to learn how to manage the current situation positively.
    • Only believe in you, in the things that you can do, and not in the circumstances. You have to believe in only yourself because there will be times when you will be tempted to put your belief into something else such as a job, a friend, or a particular opportunity. Although this could be nice, note that people and circumstances are changeable. Your success should be created by only you, and you alone can decide whether to change it or not.
    • Keep in mind that success will take some time and if ever you do fail, take it as an opportunity to learn and reassess your beliefs and your goals.

    Conclusion

    The power of believing is very strong and affect our decisions, feelings, and actions.

    And although you have been depending on a specific set of suppositions regarding your life for so many years, those particular beliefs can be adjusted or changed. Start changing them now and live to reap the rewards.

  • Decide What You Want to be and do With Your Life

    Your current life is a total summation of the choices you have made. The choices you make in life are a direct reflection of the life you are leading today.

    Albert Camus said, “life is the total sum of all your choices.”

    This clearly means that you are responsible for the type of life you are leading today. No one but you should take the blame for how you are living your life. You also have the power to change your life if you put your mind and energy into it.

    We continuously choose our way of life every day, breath by breath and choice by choice. I have come to appreciate that the way I lead my life is my own choice.

    Every day I choose what to wear; what to eat; whether to be happy or sad etc. It is entirely up to me to choose. Perhaps this is the greatest gift that has been given to me. The freedom and ability to choose. 

    No one will come and make a choice for me they can only offer suggestions. Look, quit blaming someone for what did not happen or what went wrong life always gives us a second chance.

    Some people may have an influence on the choices I make but, ultimately the choices are made by me. They are mine and not someone else’s. Am not going to allow anyone to make my decisions.

    Choose Wisely

    Since our lives are a summation of our choices it is very imperative that we make wise choices. A well-lived life is not an accident. It is a summation of good decisions and choices. It is not an accident that you are living where you are. 

    Some of the challenges we will face in the future are unprecedented therefore, we must be prepared to make good choices. For example, the choice to save for the future is in your hands. You can decide to spend everything you earn today or leave some for the future.

    We will always make choices and will have to live with the consequences as a result. But the good thing is that we have the ability and power to change them under new circumstances and new knowledge.

    You must learn to make decisions while remaining flexible to change. This does not mean you must have a weak mind. Remember that life is dynamic.

    Make the decisions you think are right even when they are not popular. You are living your life and not someone else’s.

    Make sure that before you decide you are convinced that the choice you have made is the best one available.

    In life, every situation presents us with a good alternative choice to take.

    I know that some situations may be very difficult and precarious but there is always a better choice to make.

    You may not have all the information to make a good decision but I believe that decisions have to be made anywhere, good or bad.

    I say indecision is a disease, a bad one for that matter. Failure to make decisions stagnates us. We remain in the same place while we watch our friends progress.

    Indecision is what has stopped most people from achieving their intended purpose in life.

    Take Responsibility

    “We do not generally suffer from others; we suffer from ourselves. I have shown you the way to liberation, now you must take it for yourself” – The Buddha.

    Most of the people I know do not want to take responsibility when something they are in charge of goes wrong. But, when it is time to be praised they take full responsibility, this is typical human nature. You see we are responsible for our lives period.

    We are responsible for what we think, eat, drink, dress etc. We are responsible for our success and failure.

    Until you understand and take responsibility for your current situation you will never improve it.

    Taking responsibility is key to improving our well-being. When choices are made they are made by us.

    We, therefore, have a huge responsibility to enforce our choices. Remember they are ours made by us.

    I have come to appreciate taking responsibility for every situation I find myself in. I find it very helpful when I take responsibility for the situation and most of the time I see the situation improve or completely disappear.

    I do not blame myself or anyone for it whether good or bad I just take responsibility for it. Yes, sometimes am tempted to put the blame on someone but I have learned to tune my mind to take responsibility for every situation I encounter in life.

    You may ask why should we take responsibility for the choices we make. The reason is simple you want to be associated with them because they are yours. You own them.

    When you succeed at something are you not proud of it? Yes, you are happy about it because you associated yourself with the success.

    The more reason why you must take responsibility even for the bad choices so as to make better choices next time.

    Conclusion

    We live a life of choices. Every day poses a great challenge to our lives. You should learn to prepare yourself for the next decision to be made when you are faced with a difficult one.

    The choices we make shape what we expect to be in the future. Search yourself deeper when confronted with a difficult situation that needs you to make a wise choice.

    Always make choices that best suit your life and preserve your integrity. Choosing wisely for your life depends on the choices you make.

  • Explore the Power in You

    Everything in your life begins and ends with you. The choices you make directly shape the quality of the life you live.

    Whatever you choose to be is entirely up to you. If you want to make a difference in life “be the change you want to see in the world”.

    Our difficulties in are largely due to confused ideas and ignorance of our true interest. To avoid or navigate these difficulties you need to know that there is a world within us.

    A world of life and thought; of power and beauty although invisible its forces are mighty, and this world is under our control.

    This world am talking about is governed by the mind. The mind is the factory of all thought. Nothing exists on this earth without being imagined in someone’s mind. You are what you think.

    Whatever, success one wants to achieve starts with him taking the first step in the right direction. This step is thinking and doing the right things.

    You cannot achieve success if you believe you will fail. It is impossible to build riches when your thoughts are those of poverty.

    When you make the decision to become rich stand by your decision, see yourself and feel yourself being rich. Act rich even.

    Control What You Think

    The world we leave in is a direct reflection of what we think about most of the time. You are poor because poverty is predominant in your mind; you are rich or successful because that is what you think of most of the time.

    In order that we change our living environment we must change the way we think. Every thought is a cause and every condition an effect, for this reason it is very important that you control your thoughts so as to bring forward desirable conditions.

    To remove discord, we must remove the cause and this cause is found within us.

    Most of the things we think about are as a result of what we feed our minds on. The main source of which are; what we read, watch and our daily life experiences.

    If you feed your mind with negative things you obviously will think negatively and vice versa. However, you have the power to change and control what you think.

    The mind will obey what you want it to think. It is under your control. Remember that, what you think largely influences what you do in life.

    Since reading plays a greater part to our thinking, you must feed your mind with the right material. Always refuse to think negatively about your situation.

    In every difficult situation, there is always a silver lining. Focus on the positives and build on them.

    Improve Your Mind

    “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind”. – The Bible.

    In order to express life there must be mind; nothing can exist without mind.

    Nature compels us all to move through life. We could not remain stationary however much we wished.

    Every right-thinking person wants not merely to move through life like a gong, but to develop – to improve – and to continue the development mentally to the close of physical life.

    How can you improve your thoughts without improving your mind? How can you improve your physical life with improving your mind?

    Your thoughts are a direct result of what you feed your mind. Your outward results are also direct results of your thoughts.

    Nourish your mind with positive things and positive thoughts will manifest out of it.

    In order to achieve greater physical success you need greater mental success. You can achieve greater mental success by continuously improving your mind.

    Keep acquiring as much knowledge as you possibly can. If you are not in the habit of reading please develop one. At least 30 minutes a day of reading a good book will get you started.

    You Have the Power

    All growth comes from within. This is evident in all nature. Every plant, every animal, every human is a living testimony to this law, yet, we error by looking for power or strength from outside of us.

    We have the capacity to grow physically and mentally without outside interference. When we focus our energies and efforts on success we can surely achieve it.

    Thought is energy. Active thought is active energy; concentrated thought is a concentrated energy. Thought concentrated on a definite purpose becomes power.

    This is the power which is being used by those who do not believe in the virtue of poverty, or the beauty of self-denial.

    The failures of our lives are largely due to the fact that we cannot recognize and appreciate the power in us.

    We cannot express powers that we do not possess. The only way by which we may secure possession of power is to become conscious of power, and we can never become conscious of power until we learn that all power is from within.

    Conclusion

    The need for us to recognize the power built in our minds cannot over emphasized. Many people who have succeeded have realized and harnessed this power.

    You will not achieve your destiny until you fully understand and harmonize it within yourself. Remember, personal development and growth require effort and do not happen overnight. Stay persistent and patient for your progress to truly take shape.

  • Are You Happy?

    I have encountered people from all walks of life and every race. None of them wish to live a sad or miserable life. Everyone desires to live a good and fulfilling life.

    Every single one of them wants to lead a happy, decent and fulfilling life.

    It is quite interesting to note that a significant number of people are not as happy or content as they truly wish to be in their lives. Does this observation resonate with you on a personal level or make you reflect on your own experiences?

    Before we continue, take a moment to ask yourself these questions: Am I truly happy? What factors shape my happiness? Is it driven by luck or good fortune? Does it rely on money or material possessions? What is it that genuinely brings me joy?

    Happiness is a state of mind. It is a decision you make and its a personal choice. Gasping for happiness is a matter of the will of wanting and learning to be happy.

    Happiness is an emotion so if you want to be happy get the happiness consciousness. We know that all emotions are under our control. Why is it then, that most people do not live a happy life?

    A great deal of happiness depends on the desire to be happy, a consciousness, and a firm decision to reach that state.

    As described before happiness is a personal decision, here’s a few things that could help enhance your happiness:-

    Good Friends

    A lively and positive social circle could be a great source of comfort and happiness. Choose your friends carefully. Choose people you can be open with and still feel protected.

    I don’t mean that you should discriminate but be careful with the people you hangout with. Choosing the right and positive set of friends is very helpful.

    Concentrate on the positive side of things. Helping out a friend is another source of happiness. Have you ever noticed that being of service to your friends just makes you feel loved and wanted?

    Having a Good Sense of Humour

    Try as much as possible to develop a good sense of humour. They say laughter is medicinal.

    Having a good sense of humour and laughter are causes and consequences of happiness.

    I know that you will encounter situations that will go against the principles of happiness, such is life. But always know that in every situation you have a choice to make.

    Make sure you quickly switch your mind to decipher the positives out of every situation. Mostly things happen for a good reason and it is our duty to know and find those positive reasons.

    Family

    Spending time with your family is another source of happiness. It is important to find a member of your family you, can share your feelings with.

    It could be your spouse if you are married or any other close relative.

    Try helping out a family member sort out their problems. There is more satisfaction and happiness in helping out the needy.

    You could even go further by doing charity work. You will be amazed that just you presence could make a huge difference in someones day.

    Decide to Be Happy

    You were created to live a happy life make the most of it. Also make a firm decision to be happy every day, you deserve it.

    Forget the hassles and bustles of life, live a happy life. Tell yourself in the morning that this is the day the Lord has made for me and I shall rejoice in it.

    Weeping may come in the night but joy comes in the morning.

    The way you begin your day greatly influences what you will experience throughout it. If you want to be happy, choose to be.

    Once you make your decision, you will need to face and overcome the numerous obstacles and challenges that stand firmly between you and the ultimate happiness you seek.

    Be Satisfied With the Past

    Your life and the wide range of experiences you encounter along the way have the power to bring you either immense joy or deep pain. These moments shape who you are and influence your emotions profoundly.

    Depending on how you judge them, they may build or destroy your happiness. Look at your past with satisfaction, contemplate the future with hope and decide to live in the present.

    A lot of joys and positive moods are directly linked with our past events. Avoid regrets from past events because nobody can change them.

    Instead, reflect on past experiences as valuable lessons to prevent future challenges. Cherish the joyful memories, share them with your loved ones, and hold them close to your heart.

    Live in the Present

    Enjoy the here and now” this is very important. Why dwell on the past when it cannot be changed?

    However, cherish the good memories. To find happiness in the present, learn to appreciate the simple joys of today: people, nature, and children.

    Playing with children brings immense joy. You’ll be surprised by how much you can truly learn from them.

    Conclusion

    Being happy is very important to personal development and growth. You cannot attain your full personal development and growth without happiness.

    Being happy is a personal decision and choice. Make a firm decision and choose to be happy. We live in a world full of sadness.

    Everybody is busy with their own things. Make a difference by making at least one person feel loved and happy every day.

    Have a happiness consciousness. Happiness is God-given always start and end your day with a prayer. Prayer can move mountains.