We all have skeletons in our closets. Some of the skeletons do not make us proud to look at. They remind us of the unpleasant bad past.
There is no perfect individual on planet earth, non at all. Even the so-called righteous men and women of God have dark skeletons. Some even, darker than can be imagined.
However, there is room for all to live a changed life. What you did yesterday should not be allowed to discourage you from living a changed life.
It should never be used as an excuse for refusing to do better. You can make a difference if you change the way of your life.
You may not know it but we are role models for someone out there. Someone looks up to you. If you are a father or let me just say a parent, your children look up to you and it is your duty to bring them up in the right manner.
I have made mistakes in my life, some of which am very embarrassed and ashamed to talk about. But you know what, I am ok with the mistakes because I cannot change them.
I simply cannot change the past. I can only learn from the mistakes and move on and believe me, I have moved on and never going backward.
When I look back from where I’m coming from to where I am today, it can only be God and I am very grateful to him that he has allowed me to live a more decent and changed life.
He has given me an opportunity for a fresh start. He has allowed me to write a new chapter in my life and I believe that there is a much bigger responsibility he has in stock for me.
My focus for the remainder of my life is to help change the world for the better.
Yes, there is so much more to work on, but my life is very different from what it was a few years back. I feel much more in control of myself and my well-being. It feels better to live like this.
I feel God allows us to experience certain things for a reason. All those late nights I used to spend wasting away my life have helped me to stay late at night doing something constructive.
You do not have to continue wasting your life away. You too can start living a positive and constructive life. There is room to change for all of us.
Change the Way You Think
They say an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. You cannot change your past. The past is nothing but history. However, you can change the course of your future by changing the way you think.
All meaningful and long-lasting change begins with a changed mindset. If you want to see and experience significant change, start with your mind. Change your mind and begin to live a much more positive and happy life. Start where you are.
Be the change you would like to see in the world. Stop complaining about things being wrong. Do something about them, fix them for goodness sake.
Have you noticed that people who do not have much are always complaining about what they do have?
Start from your home, if something is not being done properly do it yourself rather than complain. If your house is not being cleaned to your standards, clean it yourself.
All am trying to say is that do something to change the status quo.
The mind is the factory of what comes out. You are what you think about most of the time. Your mind is capable of creating the right environment for you.
Change Your Associations
If you want to see yourself progress, take time to reflect on the kind of associations you have. The relationships we maintain have a huge impact on our lives.
Relationships that are not handled properly can be a distraction to your personal development.
The associations you keep have an influence on your life. Start with your friends because they have a bigger influence on your social life. They say birds of the same feather flock together.
Some of the people we hang around with are not beneficial. They are toxic. Cut of all relationships that have a negative influence on your life.
You cannot expect meaningful change when you continue going to the club with your old pals if the problem you have is clubbing.
If you are in a toxic relationship you need to sort that one out. For those that are not married yet, and are in toxic relationships, my advice is to quit the relationship. It is not worth it.
If you are a girl and have a boyfriend that mistreats you, leave him. Find someone else. He will never change even when he marries you, in fact, chances are that he will be worse.
The church is a good place to be. Find a Bible Based Church. You will find God-fearing people that can help you grow. For me, church is about service to the people.
There is no greater feeling of satisfaction you can get than what you get when you are of service. A good church always encourages its members to be of service. We serve without expectation. We serve because we enjoy serving.
There are some good folks you can find in church that will help you grow spiritually. You like it or not, spirituality is necessary for complete personal growth and transformation.
Look, believe it or not, there is a supreme being somewhere. For me, I believe in the gospel of Jesus Christ and have found comfort in the church and reading the bible.
Spiritual growth has many benefits, one of which is the growth of your faith and the promise of a better life.
Have Self Control
Self-control is the ability to restrain yourself from doing something adversely especially when you are emotionally charged.
Learn to keep your emotions under control. Otherwise, you may end up doing something you will regret for the rest of your life.
If you find yourself in an emotionally charged argument the best is to keep quiet and keep calm. Better still walk away. It is better to discuss when emotions have settled. That way you will be speaking with a cool head.
Watch Your Words
Watch your words and they become life. Be careful with what you say. They say words have life.
The bible says “he spoke and it came to be.” I know that many of us have been careless with what we say especially when we are annoyed.
But words truly have life, once spoken; you cannot reverse them. Yes, you may be sorry afterward but the damage would have already been done.
Words are a direct expression of our feelings and emotions at a particular time.
Make a decision every morning that you will not curse or swear during the day. That you will not be slanderous or say something that you do not mean.
Make a decision that every word that comes from your mouth will be that of encouragement. It will not always go right but it is just the right thing to do.
The magic word to use when you realise that you are wrong is I’m sorry, and please say it unconditionally.
Character is what defines a person. Change your ways and be of good character. There are many young people out there who need to be molded into young men and women with the character that can help change the world.