“It is more blessed to give than to receive” – The Bible. “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give” – Winston Churchill.
Giving just like receiving generally makes you feel happy. There are many studies and researches that have been conducted to prove that giving is a happiness antidote. So if you want to be happy there you go just start giving.
There is even more joy when you give, not because you have to, but because you want to. I believe that giving should not be done under duress or under any external pressure.
Giving is also Biblical. The Bible says “Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full—pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” – NLT.
This is powerful. We are told that when you give you will receive it back in full. I love this, on top of the happiness and joy you feel, your gift is given back to you in full, not half or quarter but in full measure and in fact pressed down to make room for more, WOW.
The Bible also says that “God loves a cheerful giver.” To me, a cheerful giver is one that is giving out of his own free will and volition; one that has not been coerced. I know that some people will not like what am about to say. Especially some Pentecostal preachers.
There is so much preaching about financial prosperity to the extent that you begin to feel as if the preacher is talking about you. I have heard stories of people who have given their pension to churches, yes you read right PENSION, all in the name of prosperity.
Look this is crazy, I mean who does that? I have been to churches and have felt like demanding back my money after being coerced into giving. Thank God I belong to a very good church Miracle Life Family Church. If you happen to be in Lusaka, Zambia please pay us a visit. I can guarantee you will feel at home.
Provide For Your Family
If you are a parent like me, it is your responsibility to provide for your family. Not only financial support but also in many aspects of your children’s lives. One of the biggest mistakes we make as parents especially us fathers is to think that we only need to provide financial support.
We have a tendency of leaving the mothers to do rest. Yes, financial provision is important but your children need you in every aspect of their lives. Get involved in knowing them better not just by name. Create time off your busy schedule and spend some quality time with them.
The relationship I had with my father was more or less strictly Dad, Son relationship. At no time did my Dad get involved with helping me with my school work. He only got involved when it was time to get my report card.
Well, I don’t blame him and am not complaining. Maybe that is the way he was brought up. However, am trying to change the narrative for my kids. I try as much as possible to know how they are doing at school and help them where I can. Am not perfect and there is still a lot of room for improvement that needs to be filled in this area.
It’s also time-consuming but it’s worthwhile. The benefits of spending more time with my family outweighs the benefits of chasing after that extra income. Not that I do not need the extra finances, I need it, neither am saying you should not work hard, but you need to strike a balance between family and work.
Remember parenting is a one-time shot. You either get it right or wrong and before you know it the kids would have grown and you would have missed out in influencing their development at the right time.
I believe that family is more important than money. Look, how many people do you know that have a lot of money and are divorced? This goes to show you that money is not everything. I do not subscribe to the notion that money is the answer to all your problems.
Money should be regarded as a tool just like any other that you use to help alleviate your life. Do not love money. I believe that it is good to have a healthy bank account “but the love for money is the root of all evil.” – the Bible.
Giving Is An Expression of Gratitude
When you give you are expressing gratitude. You are blessing someone with your earthly possessions. I have also learned that when you give, you create more room for receiving.
Giving does not necessarily have to be material items. You will be shocked that even just emotional support is very much appreciated. You could give your time as well.
I was elated by some of my church members from our cell group when they visited me during my young brother’s funeral. Their visit just made me feel that I belong to a supportive family because I never expected them to visit.
If you look around your home you will realise that you have so many things that you no longer need or have use for, that can be useful to some people. It could be old books, old toys, old clothes and anything else. Give them away.
There is always someone who is in need. It could just be someone in your neighbourhood or even a close friend or relative. Where I come from there is always someone in need. There is always an opportunity to give back.
It is just natural that if you have to be more you need to be more. You cannot experience extraordinary personal growth by doing ordinary things. Leave the ordinary to ordinary people. Do the extraordinary and see if you will not be an achiever.
If you have to wake up at 04:00 am in the morning do it. If you have to stay late at the office go ahead and give it your best shot.
Just like at school, you cannot get good results if you are not putting in extra hours of study. Look school is hard work. Those who achieve more are those who have developed an attitude of going the extra mile.
If you spend most of your time fooling around and expect to get good results you are in for a rude shock. The bible says “you reap what you sow.” If you think that by sleeping 10hrs a day you will achieve your goals, well good luck.
The joy of giving is multiplied because we know the joy of receiving. Put yourself on the receiving end every time you give something out. Am always happy when I see the expression of happiness on my children’s faces when I give them something. Also, learn to give without expecting anything back.
Give because you are happy to do it.
Giving Encourages Social Connection
Being generous promotes and encourages social connections. When you give you are more likely to get back. If you belong to any social group you will agree with me that you are more likely to help those that are more generous.
Nature requires us to create social connections in order to have a better life. I have observed that even in family circles there is always one who receives more attention when they are in need. This is usually because of their giving stature.
The more you give the more connected you become. This exchange of gifts usually promotes a sense of trust and cooperation that strengthens our ties to other people it takes away loneliness.
The most important thing is that when we give to others we make them feel closer or rather we draw them closer to us and this usually opens up other avenues for mutual understanding and cooperation.
Social connections are very important in our lives.
Perhaps giving is one of the most important acts of expressing gratitude. It is also a source of and joy and happiness. When you give always make sure you do not give under any pressure but out of your own free will.
Lastly “give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give the world your best anyway” – Mother Theresa. Let us continue to give freely and willingly to help one another and make the world a better place for all.