Your values make the person you are

Life is lived from the inside out. At the very core of your personality are your values. What you become or what you are, is largely dictated by the values that you hold strong. If your values are love, kindness, honesty, positivity and sincerity that is what will often be shown in your life. Our outward life is merely a reflection of our inner core values. The Bible says “you shall know them by their fruits”. Our values are our fruits. We all live life by our values, be it wrong or right and sometimes knowingly or unknowingly. Human beings are mostly directed by the values they hold. We are daily displaying what we value by the way we live our lives. The life you are living today is a direct reflection of your inner values. Notice that most successful people have a positive outlook about themselves. They harbour positive values within their inner being.

It is therefore, very important that if we are to succeed at what ever we are doing we must learn to feed our minds and inner souls with the right material. If you feed on negative emotions you are most likely going to produce negative emotions and the opposite is equally true. In short your character is a sum total of what you feed on. The good thing with our mind is that it can be transformed. If you want a transformation of your mind feed it with the right material.The bible says “you shall be transformed by the renewing of your mind”. The only way I know of renewing your mind is by reading and learning. Look, whatever you read sticks in your mind and some day it will come out. If you read wrong books your mind will be transformed by them. One of the books I read on a daily basis is the Bible. It is full of positive affirmations. The Bible is actually my life’s guide.

You have to make a deliberate policy and have the will to change. Our daily actions are controlled, consciously or unconsciously by our thoughts. You may not have noticed it but believe me your thinking has a direct bearing on your character and general behaviour. What you hold dear to your heart will always manifest. I always like to give the example of thieves, do you realise that no one is born a thief. People just learn thieving and since it can be learned it can also be unlearned. Nature provides us all with equal opportunities. For example we all have 24hrs a day, 12 months a year. The biggest difference is the way we seize the opportunities that come our way. Sometimes opportunities can be disguised as a “disaster” say loss of employment. Most of the times when one looses employment they mourn  and groan about it without realising that it could be an opportunity that has just presented itself to be self employed or even look for better employment.

Improve your values
Like I said before our values can be learned and unlearned. The question is how can we unlearn the bad values that have accumulated over a period of time. Over the past months I have been focussing on changing some of my values by reading, listening and watching motivational materials and attending personal transformation seminars. This has seen me change my internal values tremendously. To this day some of the things I thought of being valuable are actually of negative value. When you change your values and focus on building positive ones it gives you a sense of purpose and you feel in control of your life. Most of us are not in full control of our lives and hence just flow with the wind. Hence the frustration with life.

A positive mind set has the ability to create a sense of responsibility and enables you to enjoy your life much much better. You have less pressure and you do not panic when things go wrong. Believe me things will always go wrong and sometimes very messy. The most important thing is the way you react to them. Do you let the situation overtake you or do you take control of the situation. Most of the things that go wrong are actually within our control. I believe that everything that happens to us, happens for a reason and mostly it is just an opportunity for us to provide a solution different. However this entails thinking outside the box. In fact removing the box all together. I always like to think of life as a journey. When faced with a challenge do I go back or face the challenge head on. I focus on facing the challenge head on. There is always a solution to every challenge that comes your way. Remember that God always makes a way where they seems to be no way. The Bible says “seek ye first the kingdom of God and everything shall be added on to you”. The bible also says that “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you”. It is therefore, very important to have a prayerful life if you have be successful. Prayer and meditation on the word of God opens doors.

Your values are the key components to determining your character. As human beings our lives portray our core values. Take stock your life and see what you value most. The best way is to write down what you think your values are. Now compare that with the way you carry on with your daily life. If your values are love, honesty and sincerity this will tend to be exactly how you treat other people. You will always treat people with love and sincerity. I have also noticed that we make opinions about people based on our own characters and past behaviour.  Just take time to observe your life and you will surely agree with me that what you value most will definitely be primary in your daily life.

Clarify your values
One of the characteristics of good leaders is that they have clarity of their values. Remember that we are all leaders of some sort. You may not be in a leadership position but you are the leader of “yourself corporation limited”. The more you get to know what your values are with clarity the better person you become and the more happiness you experience. Many of us have values that are not clear. If you want to succeed at what you are doing it is very important that you write down a clear set of values that you believe in. These values should actually be engraved and be identified with your belief system. This is also true that most successful corporations have a set of values they adhere to.

Your belief system is also key in determining your values. Remember that our belief system can also be learnt or unlearned. Our beliefs are mainly deduced as a result of our past experiences and what we have read and seen. Some experiences can be directly linked to us as individuals or can be someone we have seen or read about. To be successful and develop a positive mental attitude there is need to have a clarity in your values and belief system. Personal development and self growth is not a destination but a journey. We are all on the journey of life, however, the difference is how we are enjoying this journey.

Enjoy your life
There is much joy in doing the right things. I have heard that if you are feeling low and want to experience happiness try giving a helping hand to someone else. You will definitely be filled with joy when you see the glow of happiness in the other person.  I believe that humanity was created to help each other. We are the solution to many people around us. If you look around you will realise that there are many people who are worse than you. The onus is on you to make the best out of the current situation. Stop complaining and blaming people for your current situation. Especially if you are over the age of 18, you have full responsibility for your life. Learn to enjoy life by doing that which God created you for. You have the ability and capacity to improve yourself no matter how bad the situation may look like.

Life was meant to be enjoyed. I have learnt that for as long as someone has the breath of life in them they are not to be written off. Never ever look down upon anyone in life no matter what their current situation is, instead try and help them where possible. They say as you climb the ladder up wards ensure that you look after those you leave downwards as they will be able to catch you when calamity falls on you. No offence but I have noticed that those people occupying higher authority, have a tendency of thinking that they do not need anybody whose below them.  I believe that life is a vicious circle. You never know when someone will come and give you a helping hand simply because you helped them at some point in life. You may not be the direct beneficiary of that help but it could be your children or indeed someone close to you. Some of the favours I have personally received are a result of my late fathers good will. People have told me that we have done this for you, because your father was in good standing with us.

Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals and values are in balance” – Brian Tracy. One of the key areas of personal development and success is knowing what your value set are. Your values form an important aspect of your character. It is your character and will that eventually drives you to your life’s goals. I encourage you to set goals for your life and just be a student of your self. Know yourself as much as possible and take action to correct the areas of your life that you think need correction. Lastly if this site is an encouragement to you, please feel free to share it. Bye for now and remember to always “standout tall and counted”.

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